As we go through the different stages of pregnancy, our physical and emotional experiences can affect our sex-life and impact on intimacy with our partners. Understanding these changes and finding ways to navigate them together can help increase connection and closeness in a relationship. Let’s explore sex and pregnancy, sexual positions, pregnancy and rediscovering intimacy after childbirth.
It’s normal for our sex life to change during pregnancy. While some women may experience an increased libido, others may find their sexual desire decreases. These changes usually occur due to hormonal fluctuations, physical discomfort or emotional ups and downs.
Pregnancy often increases heightened sensitivity and arousal due to an increase in blood flow in the pelvic region. This surge in hormones, such as estrogen and progesterone can often lead to heightened sexual desire and enjoyment. However, fatigue, nausea, discomfort and concerns about the safety of sexual activity during pregnancy can sometimes cause a reduction in sexual desire, making us less interested in sex.
Sex during pregnancy is considered safe for most women, due to various factors:
Protective barrier
The amniotic sac and the mucus plug in the cervix act as natural barriers, protecting the fetus from infection and harm during sexual activity.
Strong uterine muscles
The uterus is a strong, muscular organ that is designed to protect and support the growing fetus, therefore any sexual activity is unlikely to cause any harm to the baby.
Hormonal changes
Hormonal changes, such as increased estrogen and progesterone levels can often cause an increase in sexual desire and arousal. Also, increased blood flow to the vagina, can help with natural lubrication, making sex feel comfortable and enjoyable. For others, they may need additional lubrication to help make sex more comfortable, which is completely normal.
Regardless of how pregnancy affects your sex-life, it’s important to maintain open communication with your partner. Being able to talk openly about your feelings, desires and concerns can help increase the connection and intimacy between you both.
During pregnancy, you may find that certain positions feel uncomfortable. It’s important to listen to your body and communicate openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t. This can be a good time to explore new techniques and add new positions into your sexual repertoire.
Side by side positions or those where the pregnant partner is on top can sometimes feel more comfortable and allow for better control over depth and penetration. Pillows can also help in being able to try different angles and alleviate any discomfort. This can be a fun way of discovering new sexual pleasures, but do take things slow, as what may feel good to one person, may not to another.
Rediscovering intimacy after having a baby is an important journey that most couples have to navigate around. The arrival of a baby brings with it significant changes, both physically and emotionally, which can impact on the intimacy between partners. Here are a few ways that can help strengthen your bond and feel close again after childbirth.
Show affection
Intimacy doesn’t always mean sexual activity, it can be anything that shows your affection to your loved one. Cuddling, kissing and spending quality time together can help you feel closer and more connected.
Take it slow
We know it’s natural to want everything to go back to normal, but take things at your own pace, and try not to rush into anything. Focus on building emotional intimacy before physical intimacy and give yourselves time to reconnect naturally.
Patience and understanding
Be patient with one another as you navigate the changes that come with having a baby. It’s normal for things to feel different, and needing time to adjust to that. Be kind and supportive to one another throughout this journey.
Sexual activities
During pregnancy and after childbirth, couples can be intimate without having sexual intercourse. Kissing, giving massages, mutual masturbation are all sexual activities that don’t require penetration. These activities can help increase intimacy, allowing partners to talk openly about desires and boundaries, increasing connection throughout pregnancy and afterwards.
]]>Love is more than just flowers and gifts; it’s about opening our hearts and sharing our feelings. Use any day as an occasion to have heartfelt conversations with your partner, sharing the qualities you love and appreciate the moments that have brought you closer. Be open and honest with your partner, expressing just how much they mean to you.
In sharing your feelings, it’s also important to listen attentively to your partner's thoughts - what they appreciate about the relationship, and the moments that hold significance to them. Having a conversation like this not only helps to strengthen the love and connection between you both but also enhances intimacy and strengthens the emotional bond you share.
Adding novelty into your relationship can ignite a spark of fresh energy and love between you both. Instead of sticking to the usual routine, perhaps you can step out of your comfort zone together and embrace something new.
Looking to elevate your intimate experience? Explore the world of condoms to add a touch of excitement to your sexual adventures. Whether it’s a unique texture, a more satisfying sensation or an enticing flavour - there’s a condom to cater for every desire.
For something more sensual, dive into the realm of lubricants. Whether you’re into the succulent sweetness of strawberry, the cool freshness of mint or a more gentle lubricant, there’s a whole new world of pleasure waiting for you with lubricants. Discover the perfect one to heighten the sensations and make your romantic moments even more unforgettable, turning every intimate moment into a celebration of love and connection.
If you’re looking to spice things up, perhaps you could try a different sexual position. Whether you’re looking for a different change in intensity, angle or closeness, trying a new position can add a novel twist to your sex-life that enhances the passion. Make it an exploration of pleasure, excitement and deepening your connection - creating lasting memories in the journey of your love and connection.
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, sometimes being present with our loved ones can take a backseat. Take the time to enhance your love and connection by staying in the present moment.
Tech-free zone
Put your phone away, turn off notifications and disconnect from the virtual world. Being away from distractions allows you both to foster a deeper connection and turn your attention on one another.
Create a relaxing atmosphere
Whether you love a candlelit dinner, or a cosy night in with a movie and soft lighting, create an atmosphere that encourages intimacy and love. Use this backdrop to create regular special moments, turning a relaxing setting into an unforgettable moment that will be cherished all year long.
Shared silence
Silence can be a powerful means of expressing love and connection. Embrace moments of shared silence, whether that’s through staring into each other's eyes, cuddling or stargazing, these silent moments can strengthen the bond between you, making you feel closer to one another.
To keep your relationship special, it’s important to add a touch of romance, at anytime of the year. Surprise your partner with small but meaningful actions that show that you care. Romance is often found in simple gestures, such as a romantic note, breakfast in bed or offering to help with a challenging task. Taking the time to reflect on these little moments can help to increase the emotional connection, making your partner feel loved and supported. These thoughtful actions create shared memories and deepen the connection between you two, creating an environment where love flourishes, making sure your relationship remains a source of joy and mutual affection.
]]>Therefore, this year let’s redefine self-care to encompass not just our physical and mental wellbeing but also our sexual fulfilment. Adding moments of self-pleasure into our routine can be a transformative act of self-love. Whether we’re exploring new fantasies, experimenting with self-touch or simply taking the time to connect with our own bodies - solo-sex can be an empowering act of self-care.
With this in mind, let’s find out why solo-sex is an important aspect of our self-care routine, whilst learning both basic solo-pleasure and more advanced masturbation techniques.
Solo-sex has a significant impact on both our physical and mental wellbeing. From a physical perspective, experiencing satisfying orgasms triggers the release of ‘feel-good’ hormones, such as endorphins which naturally enhance our mood, leaving us feeling good and improving our overall mood. Whilst the physiological responses during masturbation or solo-sex, such as increased blood flow and relaxed muscles can lead to better sleep and a stronger immune system.
Engaging in solo-pleasure also acts as a powerful stress-relief method. Taking moments for self-pleasure amid the chaos of daily life is a good way to relax and release any underlying tension. When we feel under pressure, our bodies release the stress hormone cortisol, and the act of orgasm can significantly reduce these cortisol levels, so by adding solo-sex and masturbation techniques into our self-care routine it can help us feel calmer and more at ease, acting as a natural-stress relief technique.
Therefore, as we leap into the New Year, adding solo-sex into our self-care routine can be a pleasurable and satisfying way for us to express love and care towards both our physical and mental wellbeing.
If it’s been a while since you’ve experienced the pleasure of solo-sex, we’re on hand to help guide you through some gentle techniques that can help enhance your self-love practice.
Firstly, take the time to explore your body's responses through gentle caresses and light touches, allowing your hand to wander and paying attention to areas that feel good and heighten your sensations.
Engaging in Fantasy
Most of us love to engage in fantasy in some aspect or another, and by adding fantasy into our solo-sex experience it can add a new and highly pleasurable dimension. Our imagination has the power to transport us to realms of desire and excitement that may not be achievable in our everyday lives. Whether it’s exploring a forbidden scenario, visualising a favourite fantasy setting or indulging in a role-play scenario, our minds are a playground for creativity and desire. Through adding fantasy to our solo-pleasure routine, we can achieve a more pleasurable experience that caters to our deepest desires.
Touching the clitoris
The clitoris is a highly sensitive part of our body that can make our solo-sex experience more enjoyable. The external part of the clitoris is particularly sensitive, and when gently touched, either through light strokes, or circular motions, it can create an intense pleasurable experience. The more attention we give to our clitoris, the more sexually aroused we feel, leading to increased lubrication in the vagina and making the experience more heightened and pleasurable. As you add solo-sex to your self-care routine this New Year, remember to go at your own pace, explore what feels good and spend some time getting to know your own body through different masturbation techniques and self-pleasure practices.
The Vagina
Whilst the clitoris is usually associated with pleasure, there’s a lot more to discover inside. Many people explore new sensations by experimenting with fingers or sex toys inside the vagina, using different rhythms or pressures to enhance solo-pleasure and finding out what feels satisfying. When we become sexually aroused, the vagina naturally lubricates, however, for some people they might need additional lubricant for an even more pleasurable experience. Therefore, take the time to experiment with either your fingers or sex-toys and unlock a whole new world of pleasurable sensations through different masturbation techniques.
Touching the glans
For those with a penis, the glans (or bell-end) is a sensitive area covered by a foreskin. Gently holding the penis and moving the foreskin back and forth over the glans replicates the sensations of penetrative sex. Using this masturbation technique allows the freedom to choose the pace and rhythm that feels personally satisfying, providing heightened stimulation and solo-pleasure. Experimenting with light strokes or using wet fingers offers different sensations. Just like touching the clitoris, paying attention to the glans can lead to increased arousal and a more pleasurable experience during solo-sex.
The key to a satisfying solo experience lies in understanding our own preferences and comfort levels. Exploring different touches, pressures and techniques allows us to understand our own pleasure points, adding to our own self pleasure journey.
Once we’ve explored the basics of solo-sex techniques, exploring advanced techniques can become an exciting and satisfying part of our self-love routine. Whilst basic touch may provide comfort and pleasure, introducing variety can add a layer of excitement to our experience. This can be done through the use of sex-toys, lubricant, adding in different sensations, such as warming and cooling condoms or anal play. Opening the door to curiosity allows us to venture into uncharted territories of pleasure which can often be an exciting experience.
Sex Toys:
Lubrication:
Sensory Play:
Anal Play:
Creating a cosy environment is an important part of maintaining sexual wellness in Winter. When you and your partner feel comfortable in your environment, it’s easier to relax and unwind from the stress and distractions of life, allowing you to fully connect with one another.
Therefore, our first Winter sex tip is to create a cosy environment by focusing on your bedroom’s ambiance. By adding soft blankets and comfortable pillows into your bedding, it creates a warm and inviting space. Think about how you can add warm lighting into your bedroom, whether that’s using candles or a bedside lamp as this can help enhance the intimate mood. We also love the power of scent when it comes to creating a cosy environment, such as lavender or vanilla. These scents not only add a pleasant aroma to the room, but they also foster relaxation and a positive mood.
Creating a cosy environment is not just about what you can feel or how things look, but it’s also about what you can hear. Soft music or relaxing tones can help create a soothing backdrop for your intimate moments and help to maintain your sexual wellness during these colder months.
Getting outside during the colder months can really benefit your physical and emotional well-being, including your sexual wellness. While the idea of venturing into the cold may seem daunting, the benefits of embracing the outdoors can positively impact your relationship and intimacy. Firstly, exposure to natural light, even in the winter, plays an important role in regulating your body's circadian rhythm. Occasionally the limited daylight hours can sometimes lead to a low mood - so by spending time outdoors, you can help boost your overall mood, leading to more increased energy and positive mindset. Engaging in outdoor activities together also creates an opportunity to bond and share experiences, whether it’s a romantic Winter stroll or savouring a mulled wine, browsing the Christmas markets - these shared experiences can deepen the emotional connection between you and your partner.
Not only is getting outside important for increasing energy, mood and intimacy between you both - but by engaging in physical movement, it can help to get your blood flowing, benefiting your circulation and overall wellness. Regular physical activity is often linked to increased libido, better overall sexual function and increased mental health - all factors that can increase your sexual wellness.
Therefore, in order to maintain your sexual wellness these Winter months, wrap up warm in your cosy scarves and jumpers, bring a flask of tea or a warm drink and consider spending time outdoors.
Experimenting with sensual activities is another important way in maintaining sexual wellness during the Winter months. Adding intimate items like condoms, lubricants, sex-toys or activities can add a new layer of excitement and pleasure to your sexual experiences.
These colder months, combined with a cosy environment is the perfect way to explore different ways to connect intimately with one another. Sensual massage can help to increase communication and connection, whilst the warm oils or lotions can help to enhance the experience, creating a soothing and pleasurable experience for both partners.
Condoms and lubricants are another important way of both maintaining sexual wellness in Winter whilst also increasing pleasure and comfort in your sex-life. Condoms provide protection against sexually transmitted infections and reduce the risk of unintended pregnancy, allowing you both to relax during the intimate moments. Not only are condoms important for maintaining sexual wellness, but they also add a different layer to your sexual experience with a wide range of different sensations to enhance pleasure. In addition, lubricants can also add a new dimension to your sexual experience, especially in these colder months. Chilly weather can sometimes lead to decreased lubrication, making sex and intimate moments less comfortable - therefore by adding a water-based lubricant to your sex-life, it can not only reduce discomfort but may also encourage you to try different positions or techniques - which can add another layer of excitement
Prioritising communication is an important part of a healthy and fulfilling relationship that can sometimes affect our sexual wellness, especially when the colder months can influence our mood and wellbeing. Being able to share how we feel, any concerns or our fluctuations in mood with our partners can help to increase emotional intimacy whilst creating a deeper understanding of each other’s needs. In addition, by sharing how you’re feeling, both physically and emotionally, you and your partner can work together to resolve any challenges that arrive - creating a supportive environment where both of you feel heard and taken care of. This level of intimacy can benefit our emotional wellbeing, causing us to feel more connected to one another.
Being able to communicate properly with our partners is not just about expressing our needs, but also by actively listening to your partners thoughts and feelings. To prioritise communication, set aside some dedicated time for meaningful conversations, away from the hustle and bustle of life and electronic devices. Consider having an evening check-in or weekly check-in with one another to discuss anything that has arisen from that week or from that day, and watch how the intimacy and emotional closeness with one another increases.
Not only is it important in talking to our partners about how we feel, but it’s also important to express our sexual desires, fantasies or needs as it creates an environment of safety and intimacy. Therefore, another way of maintaining sexual wellness during these Winter months is to maintain good communication with our partners that can help us feel more supported, loved and taken care of.
]]>Therefore, to celebrate Movember, let’s explore sexual health and some common sexual health problems that men over 50 may struggle with…
Movember has significantly raised awareness on important men’s health topics, such as cancer awareness and mental health, however, one important aspect of men’s health can sometimes be overlooked; men’s sexual health. Sexual health is an important part of a man’s overall well-being and quality of life and is crucial for several reasons; breaking taboos, overall well-being and age-related concerns - let’s explore these areas in a little more detail.
Breaking Taboos:
Talking openly about men’s sexual health helps break down social taboos and stigmas and creates an environment where shame and embarrassment is reduced, making it easier for men to seek help when needed and improving overall well-being. Feeling comfortable having open conversations about sexual health can help men realise that they are not alone in their experiences. Conditions such as erectile dysfunction or sexually transmitted infections carry with them a large amount of stigma, so being able to talk openly about men’s sexual health helps to humanise these conditions, making it easier to seek help without judgement. Men who feel more comfortable discussing their sexual health are more likely to seek help when they encounter issues, with early intervention often leading to better treatment outcomes
Overall Well-Being:
Sexual health is a large part of our physical, mental and emotional well-being and can affect every aspect of our lives. This Movember, let’s explore a few ways that men’s sexual health can contribute to overall well-being;
Sexual health is linked to reproductive health. Fertility issues, sexually transmitted infections and sexual function can all affect our physical health. When we have an enjoyable and regular sex-life, it can also have positive effects on cardiovascular health, helping to promote blood flow, reducing stress and helping to maintain physical fitness.
Sexual health can influence our mental well-being in several ways. Sexual dysfunction and dissatisfaction can often lead to feelings of depression and anxiety. Being able to have open conversations about sexual health can help both in managing mental health and gaining early intervention and necessary support.
It’s really common for men over the ages of 50 to experience sexual-related issues, not just in Movember. A few challenges that men may experience:
Erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction is a condition that causes difficulty in achieving or maintaining an erection for sexual activity. This can arise through a number of reasons, such as; reduced blood flow, hormonal changes and psychological factors - it’s a really common sexual health condition among older men, and addressing and seeking help can significantly improve their quality of life.
Medication side effects
As we get older, medications might need to be taken for a wide number of health conditions. These medications can sometimes impact on men’s sexual health and sexual function, causing lower levels of libido, and issues such as erectile dysfunction. Talking to the doctor about any possible side effects or exploring alternative medications may help to reduce the side effects that impact on sexual function.
Premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner would like during sexual activity. As men get older, they may have less penile sensitivity or experience age-related concerns that may contribute to it. In addition, anxiety, stress and performance pressure can sometimes cause premature ejaculation. Talking to your doctor can help to reduce premature ejaculation who may recommend psychological therapy or medications. Also, our Infinity delay condoms have been specially formulated with non-spermicidal Lidocaine Hydrochloride (1%) that can help to reduce the risk of premature ejaculation.
Our Movember gift for you
Between the 24th - 27th November, stock up on your favourite condom or lubricant with 20% off on all condoms and lubricants.
]]>Here are four ways to unleash your sexual fantasies this spooky season…
One of the most exciting parts of Halloween is the chance to step into an alter-ego, and during this magical night, you have the choice to be anyone you want to be. Choosing the perfect costume is the key to unlocking your deepest fantasies, whether you prefer to play the role of a seductive vampire, a mischievous witch or take on the whimsical spirit of a playful ghost. Consider both your own and your partner's sexual desires, and you can create costumes that fuel both your Halloween-themed sexual fantasies. Halloween costumes can ignite your sexual passions, leaving you experiencing spine-tingling screams that only happen during the spooky season.
Once you’ve chosen your costumes, you could take it one step further by creating fantasy scenarios where your alter-ego’s really come to life. As you step into your chosen costumes, you can then fully embrace the characters that you’ve chosen - embodying their whole personality, quirks and behaviour. From here, you can create sexual narratives around your character that you know will turn your partner on; is there a captivating backstory that will fuel their desire? Or maybe your alter ego’s are engaged in a secret affair - by breathing life into your narrative, you can make the fantasy more sexually charged.
Remember: It’s important to be mindful of both you and your partner's sexual desires and boundaries beforehand, so it’s always good to have this conversation in advance around consent and what you are prepared to engage in and what is strictly off the sexual table.
One way to enhance your Halloween-themed sexual fantasies is by adding sensory play to your sexual encounters. Props such as blindfolds, feathers, ice cubes and scented oils can add a whole new experience to your sex-life, and what better occasion to start creating your sexual fantasies than this spooky season, when you’re already dressed up as your alter-ego. Consider adding different textures and temperatures to heighten your partner's senses. In addition, perhaps you may explore new sexual avenues of pleasure by adding sensory condoms in your fantasy-themed night. Here are a few options that can help to add a whole new layer of excitement to your sexual experience.
Taste condoms - Kick off your sensory adventure by blindfolding yourself and inviting your partner to put on a flavoured condom discreetly. As you’re engaging in oral sex with your partner, tantalise your taste buds and attempt to guess what flavour they’ve chosen.
Climax condoms - For an experience that offers two different sensations, consider trying our climax condoms. With both warming and cooling sensations, climax condoms offer a different sexual experience every time you have sex - it’s a definite way to send shivers down your spine.
Glow in the dark - When the lights go out, let the magic of glow-in-the-dark condoms take over. The luminous glow will not only add an element of excitement to your sexual experience, but also create a whole new spooky dimension to your Halloween night.
This spooky season brings with it a spooky and atmospheric ambience, making the perfect backdrop for your Halloween sexual fantasies. Dim the lights, light some candles and play eerie music to set the scene - you could visualise yourself in a haunted mansion or a centuries-old castle, exploring hidden rooms and secret passages together. Allow your environment to be a continuation of your sexual desires - not only is this a good way of increasing the intimacy between both you and your partner, it’s also a really fun way of amplifying excitement and anticipation to your sexual fantasies.
]]>Condoms are the perfect way of practising safer sex when you’re back at uni as they act as a barrier between genitals, preventing any sexual fluids from being transferred. Not only do they protect against sexually transmitted infections and reduce the risk of unintended pregnancy, they also come in different sensations and flavours to ensure your sex-life stays satisfying and pleasurable. It’s a good idea to always keep condoms with you, just in case the moment takes you; whether you’re in a committed relationship or keen to explore new connections.
Being able to have an open and honest communication with your partner about safer sex is essential in maintaining sexual health. Discussing your sexual preferences, desires, boundaries and whether you have been tested for sexually transmitted infections can ensure that you continue to embrace safer sex whilst prioritising your sexual health and wellbeing.
Ensuring you have regular testing for sexually transmitted infections is another way of ensuring you prioritise safer sex. Urine tests or self-taken swabs can test for Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Syphilis and HIV with most test centres or universities offering free self-taken test kits. The majority of sexually transmitted infections can take up to 12 weeks to detect, so if you have had unprotected sex, it’s a good idea to test after this time-period. Testing after every new partner or annually is a good way of maintaining your sexual wellbeing whilst continuing to practise safer sex when you’re back at uni.
Always respect your partner’s boundaries and ensure that you have explicit agreement before engaging in any sexual activity. Ensuring you have valid consent is vital for any sexual activity or intercourse that takes place. To find out more about consent… click here
As you focus on your studies and personal growth, it’s important to be able to access contraception that aligns with your lifestyle and preference. Here are a few contraceptive options to consider;
Contraceptive pill
Contraceptive pills are tablets that are taken regularly to thicken the mucus of the womb, making it harder for sperm to reach the egg thus preventing pregnancy. Contraceptive pills come in two different varieties; the combined pill or the mini pill. The combined pill contains two hormones; oestrogen and progesterone and are taken for 21 consecutive days, followed by a 7-day break. Whilst the mini pill contains progesterone only, and is taken every single day without a break. Whilst contraceptive pills are designed to prevent pregnancy, condoms need to be used alongside them to prevent sexually transmitted infections.
Condoms
Condoms are a good way of maintaining sexual health as they are a barrier method of contraception, and protect against contracting sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy by stopping sperm from coming into contact with the vagina. Condoms come in a range of sizes, sensations and flavours, and even come in an internal condom for the vagina. Have a latex allergy? There’s also a non-latex condom available - so there’s no need to risk your sexual health whilst back at uni.
Long-acting Reversible Contraceptives (LARCs)
Long-acting Reversible Contraceptives (LARCs) are the perfect type of contraception for those that prefer a method they can forget all about. LARCs usually last between 12 weeks and 10 years, depending on the type of contraception you choose. The depo is an injection that is given every 12-13 weeks, whilst the implant is a small, flexible rod that is placed under your skin and lasts for around three years.
Both the Intrauterine device (IUD) and intrauterine system (IUS) are compact, plastic devices that are placed inside of the uterus. The IUD is infused with copper and offers a long-lasting non-hormonal contraceptive option, lasting between 5-10 years, based on the IUD variant you choose. Meanwhile, the intrauterine system (IUS) slowly releases the hormone progesterone into the uterus, and typically lasts for around 3-5 years. Like the contraceptive pills, LARC’s only offer protection against pregnancy, and will need to be used alongside condoms to prevent sexually transmitted infections to ensure you continue to practise safer sex.
Emergency contraception
Sometimes accidents happen, and if you’re not on any contraception or have found yourself having unprotected sex, the emergency contraception, also known as the morning-after pill can help protect you from unplanned pregnancy. The emergency contraception is mostly taken as a tablet, but having an emergency coil fitted can sometimes take place, depending on the circumstances. The two main types of morning-after pill you are likely to be prescribed are Levonelle, which can be taken up to 72 hours after having unprotected sex, or ellaOne, which can be taken up to 120 hours after having unprotected sex.
Taking care of your sexual health extends beyond the basics of contraception and safer sex practices - let’s explore how to ensure that you maintain your sexual wellbeing too.
Your mental and emotional health can play a significant role in your sexual health. If you’re feeling anxious about the new school year, or stressed about impending deadlines - this can impact on your sex-life, causing lower libido and sexual arousal. It’s important if you are struggling with mental health concerns or stress, that you speak to someone on campus who might be able to offer support. Alternatively, ensure you are staying hydrated and prioritising rest and self-care activities, such as meditation or exercise.
Ensure you communicate your sexual boundaries to your partner. If you don’t feel comfortable engaging in sexual activity, it’s ok to say so. Although back-to-uni is a time for exploration, it’s important to not neglect your own needs and boundaries or feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do.
If you are taking drugs or engaging in excessive alcohol use, be mindful that it can affect your decision-making capabilities which may lead to unprotected sexual encounters and unsafe sex practices. If you have engaged in unprotected sex, ensure that you seek support from your uni medical centre and take emergency contraception and make sure that you have a sexual health screen.
]]>Choosing the right contraception is an important step in protecting your sexual health. Whilst it’s a crucial part of a healthy sex life throughout the whole year, Summer months are especially important as the warmer weather may increase our desire for spontaneous encounters and Summer romances. Depending on your needs - there is a contraception to suit every preference, such as condoms, contraceptive pill, depo, implant, intrauterine devices (IUS/IUD) and patches. For those that are sensitive to hormones or have a latex allergy, there are non-hormonal methods and latex-free condoms. With so many choices of contraception available - make sure you are stocked up this Summer so you can continue protecting your sexual health and decreasing the risk of unplanned pregnancy.
Caught up in the excitement of partying and Summer crowds, it’s easy to get carried away and lose sight of your sexual health. However, it’s important to remember to practice safer sex, especially when you’re lost in the moment. Engaging in sexual activity with a new partner always carries a risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so it’s important that you remember to communicate openly about sexual health and make sure you have condoms on you - just in case you find yourself having an impromptu rendezvous.
We know that Summer is the season of fun, adventure and spontaneity and with that comes lots of planned trips, holidays or festivals. It’s easy to forget about protecting our sexual health when it comes to packing a suitcase, but it’s important that we remember to safeguard ourselves to prevent the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection or unplanned pregnancy. Therefore, this Summer, when you’re packing your suitcase, remember to pack your condoms or contraceptive methods - it’s also a good idea to pack wipes and sanitiser - think of it as your own personal hygiene kit, just in case you need it.
Summer months lead to higher temperatures, which can often result in dehydration, especially if we are drinking more alcohol or dancing energetically at festivals. Dehydration may lead to decreased libido and natural lubrication which may make sexual activity or intercourse more painful or uncomfortable. To prevent this from happening, make sure you are staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water throughout the day, and if this doesn’t help you can always use a water-based lubricant to make sexual activities more comfortable.
Summer flings and casual encounters might be tempting over the Summer period, but it’s important that you make sure your sexual health stays protected. Condoms are a good way of protecting the transmission of sexually transmitted infections as they act as a barrier between genitals - preventing any sexual fluid from being transferred. If you do indulge in a sexual counter over the Summer holidays, it’s important to have a sexual health check- up two weeks after your rendezvous - as it can sometimes take 14 days for symptoms to appear.
In the hot Summer months, it’s easy to consume more alcohol than normal. Whether you’re attending festivals, jetting off on a summer holiday, or simply spending more time outside, it’s important that you don’t let alcohol impair your judgement or decision-making, especially when it comes to sexual encounters. If you are planning on drinking alcohol, be mindful of your actions so you don’t inevitably end up having unprotected or regrettable sexual encounters.
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]]>Therefore to celebrate Men’s Health Week we thought we’d focus on highlighting the significance of condoms in enhancing sexual enjoyment - here’s 4 benefits to wearing condoms that can enhance sexual pleasure, not only for yourself but also for your partner.
One benefit to using condoms is that you can experience different sensations during sexual activity. Condoms come in a wide range of textures, designed to enhance sexual pleasure and heightened sensitivity. Therefore, this Men’s Health Week - we thought we’d share a few of our favourites;
Ribbed condoms
Ribbed condoms have raised ridges running along the surface of the condom, increasing the feeling of stimulation. The ridges create friction and gentle pressure against sensitive areas, such as the clitorus or the top of the penis, enhancing pleasure and increasing arousal. This increase in sensation can lead to a more intense and satisfying sexual experience.
Ribbed and Dotted condoms
Ribbed and Dotted condoms feature two of our popular sensations in one condom. Whilst the ribbed condoms create friction and increased sensitivity, the small raised dots provide an additional level of stimulation, creating more intense orgasms.
Warming and Cooling condoms
Warming and Cooling condoms offer two different and pleasurable experiences. The warming condoms are designed to provide a gentle warming sensation when coming into contact with the body - this increase in temperature can increase blood flow, causing more sexual sensitivity and intensifying the pleasure for both partners. Meanwhile, the cooling condoms provide a cooling sensation when in contact with the body. This cooling sensation can help to stimulate nerve endings, creating a tingling and refreshing feeling that can enhance arousal and sexual pleasure.
Ultra-thin condoms
Our ultra-thin condoms are the perfect way to increase sensitivity and intimacy between yourself and your partner. For those that love the intimate sensation that you experience when you are not wearing a condom - this condom provides an intense closeness whilst making sure you are fully protected from risk of pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and HIV.
Another benefit to using condoms this Men’s Health Week is that condoms can make you relax more during sexual activity. When you’re not worrying about the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection, you can immerse yourself fully in the moment whilst enjoying the intimate connection without the fear of consequences. In addition, if you’re not ready to start a family or are not ready to have children, condoms make the perfect form of contraception. Knowing you can enjoy sexual intercourse without the fear of unintended pregnancy, causes you to relax more into the moment.
Did you know condoms already come pre-lubricated? Lubrication is necessary for reducing friction and making sexual activities more comfortable and enjoyable. By using condoms this Men’s Health Week, condoms can provide that extra bit of lubrication for more pleasurable experiences. Not only that, a pre-lubricated condom can ensure that the condom reduces the risk of breaking due to friction - making sure you are fully protected from risk of unintended pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and HIV.
Another benefit to wearing condoms is that they enhance pleasure during oral sex. Using flavoured condoms during sexual activity can increase sensory stimulation through an array of different flavours and experiences. Not only are flavoured condoms enjoyable for the person performing oral sex, but enhanced tingling sensations can also be felt by the other partner, increasing sexual enjoyment and a more intense orgasm.
With a wide range of flavours, from Minty Fresh, Strawberry Crush, Chocolate Temptation or Blueberry Blast - there really is a flavour for everyone to enjoy this Men’s Health Week.
]]>This Mental Health Awareness Week, we thought we’d find out more about what anxiety is, how it can affect our sex-life and what we can do if we find ourselves feeling anxious.
Anxiety is a common mental health condition that can affect anyone, at any age. Anxiety is a normal human reaction that arises when we feel under threat. When we feel under threat, certain hormones are automatically released into our bodies; adrenaline and cortisol, which can contribute to feelings of anxiety or worry.
Symptoms of anxiety can vary to person to person, but can include;
To find out more about anxiety this Mental Health Awareness Week, click here
As we approach Mental Health Awareness Week, it’s important to recognise how anxiety can affect our sex-life. Anxiety can make it more difficult to relax, leading to difficulties with sexual arousal, desire and satisfaction. Not only that, anxiety can also affect our sex-life in the following ways;
There is no one-size fits all approach to managing anxiety, and you may need to try different strategies to find the best one for you. If you find yourself experiencing anxiety this Mental Health Awareness Week, there are a few strategies you can try that can help.
Breathing techniques
Breathing techniques, such as mindfulness, deep breathing or yoga can help to reduce anxiety. When we feel anxious, our breathing rate tends to become rapid and shallow, increasing our heart rate and causing other anxiety-related sensations. When we practise breathing techniques, they help slow down our breathing, which lowers the heart rate and activates our relaxation response.
Exercise
Exercise is also another way of helping to reduce anxiety. During exercise, endorphins are released which are naturally occurring chemicals that are associated with pleasure and well-being which help to promote feelings of relaxation and calm. In addition, exercise also helps improve sleep, self-esteem, and reduces the stress hormone cortisol.
Healthy diet
Eating a healthy diet, with plenty of fruit and vegetables can also help to reduce anxiety. One study, published by the Journal of Affective Disorders found that a diet rich in fruit, vegetables, whole grains and protein was associated with lower levels of anxiety and depression in women. This is thought to be because a healthy diet can provide the body with the right nutrients for the production of neurotransmitters that help to regulate mood and emotions.
Therapy
Seeking support from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counsellor is another good strategy in managing anxiety. There are many different types of therapy available, for instance, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a type of therapy that focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviours, which has been shown to help reduce anxiety. In addition, talking-therapies, like group therapy or 1-2-1 counsellors are a way of sharing your feelings in a safe-space and helping to gain a different perspective on your anxiety.
To celebrate Mental Health Awareness Week, there will be 25% off our sensation range of condoms and all lubricants between the 26th - 30th May - the perfect time to stock up on your favourite condom.
]]>Therefore, to celebrate World Health Day, we’re exploring three key issues that people face in regards to their sexual health; sexually transmitted infections, contraception, and sexual dysfunction.
Sexually transmitted infections are spread through having unprotected sex or any type of sexual activity. This can be through skin-to-skin contact, sharing sex toys or having vaginal, oral, or anal sex. Symptoms may include: unusual discharge, soreness, lumps, bumps, or sores, pain when passing urine, and a whole host of other symptoms. Although antibiotics effectively treat most cases of sexually transmitted infections, some individuals may present with no symptoms and be unaware they have an infection without undergoing STI testing.
With cases of sexually transmitted infections and HIV continuing to rise every year, it’s important to ensure we are practising safe sex every time we have sexual activity. In order to protect our sexual health and prevent catching sexually transmitted infections, it’s important to use condoms every time we have sex as condoms prevent sexual fluids from being transferred. Having regular sexual health check-ups, including a HIV test, is also important in reducing the risk of transmission as untreated sexually transmitted infections can lead to further health problems affecting not only our sexual health but also other aspects of our physical and psychological health.
This World Health Day, find out more about sexually transmitted infections and how to protect your sexual health by clicking here…
Barrier methods of contraception
A barrier method of contraception includes contraceptives like; condoms, internal condoms, the cap, and the diaphragm. Barrier methods are used every time you have sex, and their job is to stop sperm from coming into contact with the vagina, preventing the risk of pregnancy.
Condoms and internal condoms are types of contraception, known as dual-protection - as they protect against both sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. Condoms and internal condoms are also non-hormonal, which means no nasty side effects while condoms come in a wide range of sensations, sizes and flavours. For those with a latex allergy, there is also a non-latex condom available. Being such a versatile type of contraceptive, it’s easy to see why condoms make the perfect contraception for most people.
Long-acting reversible contraceptives (LARC)
A long-acting reversible contraceptive (LARC) is a contraceptive that lasts a long time, usually between 12 weeks and 10 years, and protects you from pregnancy. LARCs either go in your arm or are placed inside the uterus.
The depo and implant are both contraceptives that go in your arm and release the hormone progesterone in order to prevent pregnancy. While the depo is an injection that is given every 12-13 weeks, the implant is a small, flexible rod that is placed under the skin of your arm and lasts for about three years.
An intrauterine device (IUD) and intrauterine system (IUS) are both small, plastic devices that are placed inside of the uterus. The IUD contains copper which stops the sperm from reaching the egg and lasts between 5-10 years (depending on the type of IUD you have) - some people love this type of contraception as it lasts a long time and also contains no hormones. An intrauterine system (IUS) is similar to the IUD, however, it contains the hormone progesterone that gets released inside of the uterus - the IUS usually lasts 3-5 years (depending on the type).
While LARC’s are a good type of contraception for protecting against pregnancy, they do not protect against sexually transmitted infections or HIV - so in order to protect your sexual health, it’s vital you find another type of contraception to use alongside them, like condoms.
Hormonal contraception
There are four types of hormonal contraceptives; the combined pill, the mini pill, the patch, and the vaginal ring. Some LARCS are also known as hormonal contraception, because they contain the hormone progesterone.
The combined pill is usually taken daily for 21 consecutive days, followed by a 7-day break, when your period will begin. The combined pill contains two hormones; oestrogen and progestogen that are released into the bloodstream, making the mucus of the womb thicker and preventing the release of eggs.
Just like the combined pill, the Mini Pill (Progestogen only) is a tablet that is taken daily and thickens the mucus of the womb, making it harder for sperm to reach the egg. While the combined pill is taken for 21 days, followed by a 7 day break - the mini pill is taken every day - without a break.
The patch is a small, sticky patch that is applied to your skin, releasing hormones (oestrogen and progesterone) into the bloodstream. The vaginal ring is a small, flexible ring that is placed inside the vagina for 21 days, before taking a 7 day break.
Just like long-acting reversible contraception, hormonal contraception only protects you against pregnancy, and not sexually transmitted infections - therefore, you will need to use another method of contraception, like condoms to use alongside them.
This World Health Day, why not explore the different range of condoms available - you may just find a new favourite.
Sexual dysfunction is a range of issues that may occur during sexual activity; from erectile problems, like erectile dysfunction to difficulty having orgasms. Sexual dysfunction can affect our overall health and wellbeing, and may cause emotional distress and relationship problems.
Erectile problems
Erectile problems are very common, affecting most men at some point in their life but can get in the way of having a satisfying and healthy sex-life. There are many different factors that contribute to erectile problems, from physical causes, like health issues or medication to psychological ones, like stress, anxiety or depression. For some people with erectile problems, achieving an erection may be a challenge whereas for others, they may struggle to delay an orgasm. To find out more about erectile problems this World Health Day and what you can do about it; click here
Difficulty having orgasms
Difficulty having orgasms, especially for women, is extremely common - affecting one third of young and middle-aged women and 50% of older women. There are many reasons why women may struggle with having orgasms, from not being sufficiently lubricated, to not being touched in the right way to hormonal problems or medication. Some men may also struggle to orgasm - due to erectile problems, performance anxiety, or medication.
To find out more about difficulty having orgasms and what you can do if you struggle to achieve an orgasms - click here
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]]>With this in mind, let’s explore how to increase our own sexual empowerment, tackle a few sexual inequality myths as well as find out how we can protect our own sexual health as women.
There are many ways you can increase sexual empowerment this International Women’s Day - but here are just a few of our favourite;
Myth: Sexual intercourse is all about the male orgasm
This is false. One of the main myths that circulate is that sexual intercourse can often primarily be for male pleasure - with some women feeling like because they can’t orgasm through sexual intercourse, then they don’t get to have an orgasm, or often having to ‘fake’ it to make their partner feel good. Women deserve to have orgasms when having sexual intercourse or any type of sexual activity and for many women a vaginal orgasm is harder to achieve, and orgasms can only be achieved through clitoral stimulation. This is completely normal - so if you have been faking it, or going without an orgasm during sexual intercourse - it’s time to take back control this International Women’s Day and feel more sexually empowered - perhaps the first step is to talk to your partner about different ways you would like to experience pleasure.
Myth: Women only use lubricant when they have vaginal dryness
This is one of our favourite myths to debunk - because we love shouting out about how pleasurable lubricant can be, whether you suffer from vaginal dryness or not. Lubricant is not just available for women who suffer from vaginal dryness, it can be used to increase pleasurable sensations, to explore different sexual positions or activities as well as make oral sex that little bit more satisfying. With so many different uses and sensations - if you haven’t been using lubricant in your sex-life - you have been missing out on a whole load of additional pleasure, therefore, this International Women’s Day, stock up with either our minty fresh, sweet strawberry or gentle light lube.
Myth: Women don’t enjoy sex
Women have been brought up with many false sexual messages from ‘boys won’t like you if you give out on the first date’, ‘you’re not allowed to express your sexual desires or needs’ or you ‘can't be too much’ - the consequence of this is that women have grown up not feeling as though they do not have permission to talk openly about wanting sex or enjoying it. But the truth is, women love having sex and experiencing pleasure - so this International Women’s Day, take ownership of that - if you love having sex, feel the freedom to say that, talk to your friends about sex or your loved one.
Condoms. Condoms not only protect you from sexually transmitted infections, HIV but also reduces the risk of pregnancy. Take back control of your sexual health by buying condoms in advance - with so many different options to choose from; you’ll find different ones that will create new sensations and pleasure. Here are three of our favourites to try this International Women’s Day;
Our climax condoms - offer the perfect choice of warmness and coolness for twice the pleasure in just one pack.
Our internal condoms are the perfect condom for female empowerment
If you have a partner who climaxes a little quicker than you would like - our Delay condoms are the perfect way to help your man provide pleasure that little bit longer…
]]>Passionate love is all about sexual arousal, and for some people emotional and sexual connection go hand-in-hand. If you’re looking to increase passion this Valentine’s Day, a good way to do this is to open dialogue with your partner - increasing the communication and connection between you. This could be about your likes or dislikes, any current fantasies you have been thinking about or a position or technique you may be curious to try. When you lean into vulnerability and disclose something sensitive to your partner, these are the times that you’ll end up feeling closer, leading to a more passionate and intense sex-life.
If your sex-life feels like it’s running on autopilot, it might be time to spruce it up a bit. Being more adventurous doesn’t always have to mean donning full bondage gear or experiencing wild sex parties, it may just mean changing the routine a little bit. This could look like having sex at a different time of the day or adding a pillow underneath your bottom to create new angles for your favourite position. However, if you are looking to add a lot more passion to your sex-life this Valentine’s Day, a few things you could try are; treating yourself to a new sex-toy, experiment with fantasies, or blindfolding your partner and using your tongue and mouth to stimulate their erogenous zones.
It shouldn’t be just those in a relationship that get to enjoy satisfying orgasms. If you’re not regularly practising self-love, then you’ve been missing out. Whether you’re with a partner or not, incorporating more self-love into your sex-life means you get to experience more orgasms and all the physical and mental benefits that come with that. Part of providing yourself with self-love means having self-acceptance and awareness of sexual desires and pleasurable experiences, and what better way than spending time exploring various techniques and sensations whilst learning to pleasure your body and becoming aware of those areas that respond to sexual stimulation. Therefore, one way to increase passion this Valentine’s Day is by providing it to yourself!
There’s nothing worse than getting in the mood, reaching over to your bedside cabinet to grab your favourite condom and noticing that you’ve run out. Cue panic and difficult decisions that may result in putting yourself or your partner at risk of pregnancy or contracting a sexually transmitted infection. One way to make sure that you’re well prepared is to stock up before the big day. If you’re looking for a fun way to increase passion in your sex-life this Valentine’s Day - perhaps there’s a new condom that you’ve yet to experience. With so many different condoms available, you’ll be spoilt for choice between sensations that provide intense orgasms, ones for a more natural feel or flavours for an ultra-oral experience.
If you’ve never used lubricant, then you’ve been missing a really important trick in experiencing more satisfying sex. If sex feels uncomfortable or you struggle to self-lubricate when sexually aroused and have been avoiding getting intimate with your partner, lubricant may become your new best-friend. Not only does it help to reduce friction, but it also comes in different sensations and flavours for a more intense experience. Whether you struggle to self-lubricate or not, lubricant may just be that cherry on the top that you’ve been missing out on - our lubricants come in three different varieties; fresh mint, strawberry or gentle light lube. Which one will become your new favourite this Valentine’s Day?
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]]>Public health reported that in 2021, there were 311,604 diagnoses of new STIs among England residents with the highest rates being 15 to 24 years, certain Black ethnic groups, and gay, bisexual and men who have sex with men. In addition, those with a syphilis diagnosis increased by 8.4% compared to 2020 figures – so it’s never been a better time to get tested for sexually transmitted infections.
Therefore, this STIQ day, let’s find out why you need a sexual health check-up, why Black ethnicity and gay, bisexual and men who have sex with men have the highest sexual health needs as well as how to protect yourself from catching a sexually transmitted infection.
Do you know that the majority of sexually transmitted infections don’t always reveal symptoms? For instance, in those that have a Chlamydia infection - 80% of women and 60% of men have no symptoms, so unless they have a sexual health test, they may never know. In this case, not only does the infection continue to attack their genitourinary organs, leading to pelvic inflammatory disease or infertility, but if they continue to practice unsafe sex, they will end up passing the infection around. For those that do experience symptoms, they can often take two weeks to show on a sexual health test. Therefore, if you haven’t had a sexual health screen for a while, this STIQ day might be a good opportunity to book in for one.
Sexually transmitted infection diagnoses remain the highest in black ethnicity but varies between Black ethnic groups. Those of Black Caribbean ethnicity had the highest rates of Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Herpes and Trichomoniasis in 2021 while those from Black African ethnicity had lower rates compared to other ethnic groups – so if you’re from a Black ethnic group, make sure there’s no nasty infections lurking behind the scenes this STIQ day.
Gay, bisexual and men who have sex with men (GBMSM) are still one of the main groups with the highest sexual health needs. Public Health England reported that between 2012-2019, bacterial STI diagnoses have continually increased – while this may be due to increased testing, it also has been attributed to potentially ongoing high-risk sexual behaviour. In 2021, new diagnoses increased in Gonorrhoea, Chlamydia and Syphilis.
To reduce the risk of contracting HIV, Public Health England have advised that medication known as pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) can be used after condomless sex or if you have been exposed to HIV and can be picked up from a specialist sexual health clinic.
In addition, gay, bisexual and men who have sex with men are able to obtain a vaccination against monkeypox, Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B from their specialist sexual health clinic and those up to (and including) 45 years of age can also obtain the HPV vaccine.
There are a few ways you can protect yourself from catching a sexually transmitted infection on STIQ day – let’s look at a few of these.
Male condoms
Condoms are one of the best ways to protect yourself from catching a sexually transmitted infection. Not only are condoms non-hormonal (which means you don’t experience any nasty side effects) they are also a triple-protection barrier method – that protect you from not only sexually transmitted infections, but also HIV and pregnancy.
Condoms come in all shapes and sizes, as a condom too big can slip off during sexual activity, and one that’s too small can feel too tight, restrictive and uncomfortable. There are also condoms for every sensation; warming and cooling, ribbed and dotted, ultra-thin, latex-free or flavoured.
To browse our full range of condoms this STIQ day, click here
Internal condoms
With the recent come-back of our internal condom, it’s never been a better time to stock-up (or experience) one of our favourite barrier methods. An internal condom is a condom that is inserted inside your vagina, rather than the traditional condom that covers a penis. It acts in the same way – offering triple-protection from sexually transmitted infections, HIV and pregnancy by preventing sperm from coming into contact with the vagina and benefits from being 95% effective with perfect use.
Internal condoms can be inserted for up to 8 hours before sex and can be kept in after sexual intercourse has taken place – so it’s the perfect condom for special occasions or an impromptu rendezvous!
To read more about the benefits of internal condoms this STIQ day, click here
Sexual health test
A sexual health test takes place in the form of a urine sample, swab, blood test or physical examination that tests for a variety of sexually transmitted infections. This can be performed through your local sexual health clinic, your GP or online, for instance, our HIV self-test kit can be delivered to your home address with results taking only one minute to show. Regular sexual health screens are vital to maintaining good sexual health and should be performed at least annually or after any new potential partners.
Public Health England also advises that;
Our internal condoms are identical to the female condom you loved so much - the only thing that’s changed is the name and the design. They are still latex-free, don’t contain animal-derived ingredients as well as having all the same safety requirements.
To celebrate this exciting news, we thought we’d learn more about internal condoms; the history of female condoms, what they do, the benefits of wearing one, some frequently asked questions as well as how to insert an internal condom.
FC was the 1st Generation Female condom made from polyurathene. It was the world's first female condom accredited by the World Health Organisation (WHO). It was available from 1992-2009 but is now discontinued. This condom was known for making noise when used.
FC2 is the 2nd Generation Female condom made from soft, smooth, non-latex Nitrile. Available from 2009 - present in 150 countries worldwide. This condom does not make noise.
An internal condom, formally known as a female condom is a type of condom that fits inside your vagina rather than covering a penis. Our internal condom is made up of nitrile and silicone oil lubricant and just like a regular condom stops sperm from coming into contact with the vagina protecting you from both sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy - benefiting from being 95% effective with perfect use.
Very simple to use, internal condoms can be placed inside the vagina for up to eight hours before you have sex, making them the perfect condom to take out with you on a night-out as well as other special occasions.
Yes, absolutely! Our internal condoms are completely safe to use when you are on your period and will not impact the condoms effectiveness.
You can use any lubricant with our internal condoms. While they already come pre-lubricated - if you wanted to use additional lubricant, we recommend either our refreshing mint, succulent strawberry or gentle light lubricant.
If you've ever used a neuva cup/menstrual cup before, it's a pretty similar exercise!
Before you use an Internal Condom (or any condom for that matter) this is what you should do:
How do ladies insert the internal condom?
Sitting/Squatting/Elevated leg/Lying down
Make sure the inner ring is in the opening past your vaginal canal and the outer ring sits covering the vaginal opening.
Recommend to practice 1-3 times inserting the female condom (with new condom each time) to ensure you are confident & comfortable.
Remember:
It's one time use only.
Don't wear an internal and external condom at the same time as it increases friction between the two and could cause one to split.
]]>Find out why World Aids Day is important, what is HIV and AIDS, how to test for HIV, what is viral load and being undetectable, myths that are usually related to HIV and how you can support World Aids Day this year.
In 2019, it was estimated that 106,890 people in the UK were living with HIV with 4,139 new cases being diagnosed within the same year. Similarly, the World Health Organisation states that 38.4 million worldwide were living with HIV by the end of 2021. With statistics as high as these, it’s never been more important to continue spreading awareness, education and reducing the stigma and discrimination that those living with HIV face.
HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) while AIDS, Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome, is the name for a collection of viruses caused by the virus. HIV is a virus that damages and weakens the immune system, which is the ‘immunodeficiency’ part of HIV. In the past, those with a HIV diagnosis would have eventually been diagnosed with AIDS, however with new modern antiretroviral treatment, those with a HIV diagnosis rarely develop serious HIV-related illnesses.
A HIV early detection test is quick and simple. It works by detecting HIV-1 and HIV-2 antibodies using a drop of fingerstick blood. It can be done in the comfort of your own home and from as early as 21-22 days from exposure to the virus (it can take up to 3 months to produce a positive result) with results ready within 1 minute. Testing for HIV is vital as untreated HIV can continue to weaken the immune system, leading to late-stage HIV or AIDS.
To order a HIV early detection test, click here
Two terms you may have heard when learning about HIV and AIDS; viral load and being undetectable. Viral load is the amount of HIV that is the blood. A viral load test can detect how much virus is in the body by measuring how many particles of HIV are in a blood sample.
Research has continued to show that the transmission of HIV is linked to the amount of HIV virus in the blood, and has demonstrated that those with low levels of HIV virus are not able to pass the virus on.
‘Being undetectable’ is when the amount of virus in the blood has been reduced to undetectable levels. This is usually because of modern advances in HIV medicine, medication known as antiretroviral treatment (ART). If the levels of HIV are undetectable, then the virus cannot be passed on.
A lot of the stigma and discrimination directed towards those affected with HIV come from misconceptions that are spread around about HIV due to not understanding how the virus affects the body. Let’s explore a few of these common myths and why they are untrue.
Myth: HIV can be passed on, even if on medication.
This is false. If a HIV positive person is on the correct medication (where the virus has been reduced to ‘undetectable’ levels; also known as an undetectable viral load) the virus cannot be passed on from person-to-person as the transmission of HIV is linked to the amount of virus in the blood. In the UK, this is usually classed as a viral load below 20 copies/ml.
Myth: HIV can be passed on through kissing.
This is false. HIV cannot be passed on through kissing. HIV is passed on through blood, semen, vaginal fluids and breast milk, but not saliva. This is because saliva contains a combination of antibodies and enzymes that prevent HIV infecting new cells.
HIV only affects gay men
This is false. While gay men have a higher risk of being diagnosed with HIV, heterosexual people are still at risk. In the UK in 2019, there were 1,559 new HIV diagnoses in heterosexual men and women. That’s why it’s always important to continue wearing a condom every time you have vaginal, anal or oral sex to protect you from catching sexually transmitted infections, including HIV.
One of the biggest ways to support World Aids Day is to ‘rock a red ribbon’ to show your support for those living with HIV and become a HIV ally. You can also host a fundraising event, using the Red Ribbons as well as shouting about World Aids Day on social media.
Not only that, join the fight, raise awareness while protecting yourself against sexually transmitted infections, including HIV and AIDS with our reputable Red Ribbon Condoms.
To find out how you can support World Aids Day, click here]]>An easy way to increase sexual performance this Men’s Health Awareness Month is to become more active. In the era of working-from-home and sitting down at desks with computers we sometimes forget to ‘move’ and can be stationary for most of the day. Adding in a 20 minute walk around lunchtime is a good way of not only breaking the day up, but also providing you with fresh air and exercise.
Exercise is not only a good way of increasing feel-good hormones, like endorphins that can help reduce stress, anxiety or depression, it also can help to increase testosterone, tone the pubococcygeus muscles (these muscles help you stop the flow of urine), as well as reducing the risk of erectile dysfunction. Harvard researched 31,000 men over the age of 50 and found aerobic exercise resulted in a 30-percent lower risk of erectile dysfunction.
Stress is a natural part of life and most of us will experience stressful situations from time-to-time, however, for some people, they experience chronic stress that can lead to a whole host of physical and mental health problems, including a reduction in sexual performance.
During stressful moments, your adrenal glands produce and release high levels of cortisol into your bloodstream - your body's natural fight or flight response. However, higher levels of cortisol can also mean a reduction in testosterone, which may mean a loss of libido or changes to blood flow to the penis, causing difficulty with getting or maintaining an erection. Not only this, but stress can also impact your self-esteem and make you feel less sexual arousal, which will also impact on your sexual performance.
This Men’s Health Awareness Month, try finding ways to reduce and manage any stress you may be feeling. This could be in the form of relaxation techniques, such as breathing exercises, meditation to quiet the mind or yoga.
If you are having relationship difficulties and that is impacting on your stress levels, it would be good to work through any relationship problems with your partner. If you are doing this on your own, it would be good to use communication techniques that are supportive of your relationship. If this is something that may be difficult, it might be worth speaking to a couples or relationship therapist who can help.
You might find this one a bit counterproductive - surely if you masturbate more, then sexual desire would reduce? But no, on the contrary - having more regular masturbation sessions may actually help increase sexual performance. If you struggle with longevity and find yourself orgasming quicker than you would like - teaching yourself to last longer through masturbation is a good way of doing this.
So for Men’s Health Awareness Month, give yourself the gift of orgasm. When you feel yourself about to orgasm, you can slow down or stop and gradually build this up over time - after a while, you can train yourself to last for longer - resulting in a more satisfying sex-life.
Energy levels, good health, blood flow and hormones are all key players in maintaining a healthy sex-life. Therefore it’s vital to ensure you are providing your body with all the nutrients it needs for good sexual performance.
Cardiovascular health has been shown to be closely linked to sexual performance whilst high cholesterol is one of the main risk factors for heart disease. If your heart is not healthy, it’ll be harder to maintain stamina and endurance in the bedroom. If your heart is clogged, blood flow can be restricted to the penis, causing erectile dysfunction and other sexual problems.
One of the easiest ways to improve men’s health and keep your heart and body healthy is to maintain a diet full of nutrient-rich foods, which includes plenty of fruit and vegetables. So if you’re not eating enough fruit and vegetables this Men’s Health Awareness Month - try starting now.
Data from the World Health Organisation has shown that 1 million sexually transmitted infections (STI’s) are acquired every single day - with STIs having a direct impact on sexual and reproductive health which can affect sexual performance. If you’ve never had a sexual health screen, it would be a good idea to get yourself tested - many STIs, like Chlamydia may not present with any symptoms at all.
To protect yourself from catching a sexually transmitted infection, always wear a condom every time you have sex.
As Men’s Health Awareness falls within the month of Black November, you can grab those sexual health essentials with 50% off between the 23rd - 29th November (excluding the RSE toolkit) - so it’s the perfect time to stock up on your favourite condoms & lubricants.
]]>As Pasante are this years sponsors for Sexual Health Week, we thought it’ll be a good opportunity to focus on sexual health stigmas that are often associated with an STI diagnosis. These stigmas can form a barrier for people to get tested or treated resulting in low uptake or late access to services. With 317,901 new diagnoses of STIs among England residents in 2020 and a 10% decrease in consultations from 2019, it’s vital the stigmas of STI diagnoses are removed. Therefore, let’s look at what a stigma is, myths that are often associated with sexually transmitted infections and some commonly asked questions.
A stigma is a negative attitude or prejudice around people or characteristics that make them different from other members of society. In terms of a sexually transmitted infection, someone may be judged harshly if they have an STI, as they could be seen as ‘dirty’ or ‘naughty’ which leaves people feeling ashamed and reluctant to access services.
Having a sexually transmitted infection is actually really common and definitely nothing to be ashamed of. It only temporarily affects your sex-life (in that you may have to abstain from intercourse during treatment), treatment is available for most STIs and it’s better to know you have one than not, so you can gain access to treatment quicker and remove the risk of developing pelvic inflammatory disease or other sexual health problems.
Sexual health stigmas often come from a spread of misinformation and lack of knowledge which then creates sexual health myths. Therefore this Sexual Health Week, let’s take a look at some sexual health myths that are commonly associated with sexually transmitted infections.
Myth 1: Having a sexually transmitted infection means I am unclean
False: Someone could have two showers a day and still contract an STI as it’s not a virus based on hygiene. Having a sexually transmitted infection is very common and most STIs can often be symptomless, so you might not even be aware you have one.
Myth 2: You can only contract an STI once
False: Some sexually transmitted infections you’ll have for life, like herpes or HIV. However, other STIs like chlamydia or gonorrhoea can be treated, but you can become infected again if you have unprotected sex with someone who has the virus. That’s why it’s important that your partner gets treated at the same time so you don’t end up reinfecting each other. To reduce the risk of contracting an STI, always wear a condom every time you have sex.
Myth 3: Only young people or students can contract sexually transmitted infections
False: Sexually transmitted infections do not discriminate in that way. Everyone, at any age, who has unprotected sex is at a higher risk of catching an STI - whether you’re a young person, middle-aged or an older man or woman, the risk is always the same.
Myth 4: Only gay men get HIV
False: This is a common sexual health stigma that began in the 1980’s when the media focused on the prevalence of HIV in the gay community. Although gay men have higher rates of HIV diagnosis (1,966 new diagnoses in 2020), a high number of women are still being diagnosed every year (798 in 2020).
Myth 5: Only people who have a lot of sex with multiple partners will contract an STI
False: It doesn’t matter if you have sex once with one partner or with multiple partners. If you are having unprotected sex you are at risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection. Of course, the more partners you have, the higher the risk, but STIs can be transferred through vaginal, oral, anal sex, any sexual contact or by sharing sex toys - whether it’s your first time or not.
I think I have an STI - what do I do?
If you think you have a sexually transmitted infection, there’s no need to panic. Make an appointment with your local sexual health clinic as soon as possible - remember, they’ve seen everything before so there’s no need to feel embarrassed. The doctors and nurses at the clinic know what they are doing, and you’re in the best possible hands.
If I have a sexually transmitted infection, will my partner need treating too?
Yes. You and your partner will both need treatment, as otherwise you will end up passing the virus back to each other. All other partners may need treatment too, including any ex’s - but don’t worry, the clinic can do that for you confidentially and will never disclose your name.
If I use a condom, does that mean I won’t get an STI?
No - using a condom doesn’t mean that you won’t ever get a sexually transmitted infection, but it dramatically lowers your risk as condoms prevent any sexual fluid from being transferred from person-to-person. Condoms are known as triple protection, as they prevent pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections as well as HIV.
To celebrate sexual health week, we are offering 20% of all 12 packs, so it’s the perfect time to stock up on your favourite condoms.
]]>Limerence is an emotional state that creates uncontrollable obsession and infatuation for a particular person, known as a limerent object. Limerence is often thought of as an addiction of ‘love’ that can be difficult to break and can leave people feeling depressed and anxious and affecting every aspect of their life while impacting on their mental health.
This World Mental Health Day, let’s find out more about limerence, how it differs from love, what are the signs you are in limerence and what to do if you think you may be having a limerence episode.
Limerence is often described as feeling similar to the first start of a relationship where it can feel intense and distracting - but those that endure a limerent episode, it can often feel more intense and intrusive and their feelings may not be reciprocated. The limerent object may be someone they have / had a relationship with, someone they may have never met, a celebrity figure or even someone they may have had an encounter with once.
When someone is in limerence, they are often plagued with obsessive thoughts and fantasies about their limerent object with intense feelings that range from euphoria to despair that are contingent on whether their feelings are reciprocated. Those that are in limerence with another person often see ‘signs’ that their limerence is reciprocated, even if they are not, which creates euphoric ‘highs’. It may be in the form of receiving a text message, a smile, a friendly conversation, a special look - anything that fuels the fantasy that the other person is interested.
These highs can become addictive and when not received, individuals can fall into deep despair and withdrawal until they are able to feel another euphoric high. Like most addictions, it can affect people’s sleep, appetite, ability to go to work, interests, activities or mental health.
Those that are in limerence can often feel as though they are in love with their limerent object, but in reality, they are addicted to the euphoric highs and lows of the ‘relationship’ - whether it’s an actual relationship, a friendship, an acquaintance or someone who they see occasionally.
When someone begins a limerence episode, it can often be a result of an intense attraction that occurs instantaneously and can be initiated through a sexual attraction or ‘chemistry’. Individuals may put their limerent object on a ‘pedestal’ creating an idealistic view of this person that may not be congruent with reality, for instance, dismissing any flaws the person may have and viewing the other person as ‘perfect’. Obsessive thoughts of this person are present that are hard to control and will be with you every moment of the day.
When someone is in love, feelings may not feel as intense and thoughts may not be so obtrusive. There’s usually a true emotional and intimate connection that feels healthy and safe. Love doesn’t affect every aspect of your day, and you are able to go to work, see family and friends, and continue with hobbies without obtrusive fantasies or feelings impacting you or your mental health.
There are a few signs you can detect if you think you may be in limerence with another person - here are just a few;
Healing from a limerence episode can be a very difficult thing to get through, as it can feel like an addiction of the other person.
Finding a therapist that can help you unpack why you are having this limerent episode can help to minimise symptoms. They may recommend that you have ‘no contact’ with this person, while you heal and you may find that just like a drug or alcohol addiction, you have withdrawal symptoms to begin with - but they’ll soon pass.
Show yourself compassion and kindness and remember that it’s not love, it’s an addiction of the other person and focus on your own health and wellbeing and incorporate grounding exercises like meditation or yoga.
]]>With this in mind, let’s find out more about the orgasm gap, what causes orgasm problems in females, what causes orgasm problems in men and where to get help if you have an issue with orgasms.
The orgasm gap is a social phenomenon that argues that a sexual inequality exists between men and women in terms of satisfying orgasms. Research over the last two decades have consistently shown that men frequently have more orgasms than women in heterosexual encounters, showing that this sexual inequality may be due to many factors, including cultural ignorance of the clitoris, pornography favouring male orgasms or lack of education focussed on sexual pleasure. Therefore, on this national orgasm day it’s never been more important to raise awareness about the orgasm gap, with an aim to celebrate female orgasms as well as the benefits that arise from having an orgasm.
To find out more about orgasms, click here.
Female orgasm problems are extremely common, especially in older women. The NHS states one third of young and middle-aged women are affected by sexual problems, with a staggering 50% of older women being affected.
There are many factors that may cause orgasm problems in women. Firstly, it may be that the female genitalia is not being stimulated properly - the clitoris may be touched too hard, or too soft, or not the right way, or even not touched at all. That's why it’s important to talk to your partner to find out what they like or don’t like and how they like to be touched. One way of finding this out is by asking your partner how they like to touch themselves as this may give you an indication on the rhythm, speed and pressure your partner likes.
Other factors may include;
Some women may never have experienced an orgasm, while others may have had orgasms in the past but are currently finding it difficult.
For men, there may be many reasons that cause orgasm problems. Semen is created from sperm produced in the testicles as well as fluid from the prostate gland and glands behind the bladder while the orgasm happens just before the semen spurts out until the last semen is ejaculated. This means that problems in either area of men's anatomy may cause orgasm problems.
Other factors may include;
- Premature ejaculation
- Producing no semen or very limited amount
- Delayed ejaculation
- Erectile dysfunction
- Stress, depression or anxiety
- Medication
- Relationship problems
- Sexual performance anxiety
If you are having problems with reaching an orgasm this national orgasm day, then it’s best to make an appointment with your doctor. If they suspect the reason might be psychological, they can refer you to a psychosexual counsellor or therapist who will work with you to treat the underlying psychological cause.
The doctor will also check for any physical reasons why you might be finding it difficult to reach orgasm, for instance for female orgasm problems, it may be a problem with the pelvis. If it’s a pelvis issue, they may give you some pelvic floor exercises to do to help strengthen these muscles which may make having an orgasm easier.
]]>One study revealed that those between the ages of 18-24 are kissing an average of 11 times a week, while 5% of those aged over 45 are having approximately 31 passionate kisses a week - showing how much we all still love to kiss.
With this in mind, let’s find out how to give the perfect kiss, different kissing styles you could try and how to give good penis or vaginal oral sex.
If you are not sure how to give the perfect kiss or have never given a kiss before, we have some tips on making sure you become an expert in no time - what better time to learn than International Kissing day!
Cup face with hands
This is quite a romantic pose, where you gently take your partner's face in your hands and move them towards you to kiss them.
Play with her hair
This style is more effective with a partner with long hair, but it can be done for anyone. Take your hand and gently place it at the front of their face and push their hair back with your fingers. This is a good way to show your intention before you go in to kiss them.
Tease before you kiss
This is a playful style where you lean in and play with their lips a little bit before planting a soft kiss. You can then move away a little bit slowly, leaving them wanting more and gradually going back in for another.
Push her up against the wall
This can be quite effective as there’s a sense of playful dominance and control that can often make the kiss more passionate. Gently push your partner back towards a wall and lean into them as you kiss.
Kissing on the lips is just one way of showing your love this International Kissing Day, another way you may want to kiss is through oral-sex. Giving your partner oral-sex can provide them with intense pleasure and can be a very intimate act between two people.
Vagina oral-sex
Penis oral-sex
What are the symptoms?
The main symptoms associated with erectile dysfunction are trouble getting an erection, keeping an erection or reduced sexual desire.Causes of erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction can occur at any age, however as you get older, your risk increases due to other contributing factors. These risk factors include;How is it diagnosed?
Erectile dysfunction is usually diagnosed by a doctor who will perform a physical exam and ask basic questions about your medical history and health.How is it treated?
Erectile Dysfunction is usually treated depending on the cause.Premature ejaculation occurs when the male is unable to delay orgasm and ejaculates too quickly during sexual intercourse. It’s the most common ejaculation problem. All men can experience premature ejaculation occasionally, however if it happens 50% of the time - it might help to get treatment.
What are the symptoms? Causes of premature ejaculation
The exact cause of premature ejaculation is unknown, however, there are various physical and psychological factors that are thought to cause this condition.
How is it diagnosed?
First, your doctor will ask a series of questions, for instance; how long you have had this problem, when it occurs, how often, does it happen during masturbation?. The doctor will also ask about any health conditions or medicines you may be taking.
How is it treated?
Things to try at home;
Medication,
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are mainly used to treat depression, however they can also help to delay ejaculation. They’re often taken a few hours before sex, but only once a day.
What are the symptoms?
The symptoms of male orgasmic disorder is experiencing a long delay before orgasm, for instance; 30-60 minutes or the inability to ejaculate half the times you have sex.
Causes of orgasmic disorder
Orgasmic disorder can be caused by both physical and psychological conditions. Here are a few common causes;
How is it diagnosed?
The doctor will perform an examination and ask questions about your medical history. If they suspect it may be due to a medical condition, they may also request a blood test or further testing.
How is it treated?
Sex therapy may be offered, which is a type of counselling that focuses on any emotional or psychological difficulties that may be causing delayed ejaculation. The therapist may recommend strategies to try while having sex with your partner.
Medication may also be offered - three common medications that are prescribed are;
Some sexually transmitted infections can cause erectile problems, like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. For instance, Chlamydia can infect the prostate gland, causing a complication called prostatitis, which can lead to erectile dysfunction and has also been associated with premature ejaculation. That’s why it’s a good idea to have a sexual health screen after every new partner or at least once a year. Make sure you wear a condom when having sex to protect against sexually transmitted infections.
]]>Therefore, this Mental Health Awareness Week, we thought we’d focus on the benefits of masturbation, how often you should masturbate, and some top tips to enhance masturbation for a self-care routine.
Playing out fantasies
Having solo-sex allows you to play out fantasies or sexual desires in your head, without having to share it with another person. One study explored changes in sexual fantasy and solitary practice during lockdown and found 34.3% of British adults surveyed had engaged in more sexual fantasises during lockdown. Therefore, whether you desire to be dominated, or test out a threesome, masturbation allows you to visualise a fantasy in your mind, become sexually aroused and satisfy yourself through self-pleasure.
Mental health benefits
During orgasm, the body naturally produces several feel-good hormones. These hormones are; oxytocin, endorphins and dopamine and are responsible for increasing trust and love, reducing stress, pain and low mood. Therefore, by adding regular solo-sex to your self-care routine, you could help to increase your feel-good hormones, reduce stress and improve your mental health.
Increases sexual confidence
Having regular masturbation allows you to discover what type of things you enjoy. Do you love to be touched hard or soft? Do you love to be teased? What type of lubricant feels the best? Are there any sex-toys that make you orgasm quicker? Do you love anal foreplay? All these questions can be answered through regular self-exploration and can also increase your sexual confidence when you’re next with a partner.
Everyone’s sex-drive is different, those with a high sex-drive may need to orgasm daily or several times a week, while others may prefer to masturbate once a week. There’s no laws on how much solo-sex you can have, so if your current masturbation regimen feels good, then keep at it. And if you are not already having solo-sex this Mental Health Awareness Week, try giving it a go - you may have found yourself a new favourite self-care activity.
In 2020, Public Health showed there were 317,901 new cases of sexually transmitted infections diagnosed in England, with the most common STI’s being Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea and Syphilis. While in 2018, Public Health found that 45% of all pregnancies were unplanned, which can lead to antenatal and postnatal depression, obstetric complications and over-due antenatal care. Therefore, it’s never been more important to wear a condom every time you have sex and to demonstrate how condoms can be used for pleasure.
With this in mind, let’s find out why condoms are pleasurable, how we can make condoms more pleasurable, how to measure your penis, how we can make sex more pleasurable, as well as answer some common frequently asked questions relating to sex.
Condoms come in all different shapes, sizes and sensations which provide us with a new experience every time we have sex. This World Health Day, stock up on your favourite condoms; prefer to feel a warming and cooling sensation? try our Climax condoms. Looking for an intense closeness? Try our ultra-thin Feel condoms or if you’re looking to enhance pleasure for both parties, there’s our ribbed and dotted Intensity condoms.There’s a whole host of condoms available for pleasure that offer different sensations and enjoyable experiences, without worrying about catching a sexually transmitted infection or becoming pregnant.
One of the most common reasons why condoms may not feel pleasurable is because they have not been put on correctly or you are not wearing the correct size. Our condoms come in four different sizes; trim, regular, king size or super-king - because we know not all penises are the same size. Therefore, in order for condoms to feel pleasurable this World Health Day, you need to be wearing the correct size.
New to measuring your penis? This World Health day, grab a measuring tape or ruler and find out your correct penis size. When measuring your penis, you are looking for the length and width of your penis, as the width will affect how a condom fits and stays on and length is important as the condom needs to cover the whole penis and leave space for the semen.
If your penis size doesn’t match one of our condom sizes exactly, the best option is to choose the nearest size. Don’t be afraid to try out different sizes to find out what is the most comfortable for you. This is why we offer 3 packs of condoms, so that you can give different sizes a go!
Trim: 180mm nominal length, 49mm nominal width
Regular: 190mm nominal length, 54mm nominal width
King-size: 205mm nominal length, 60mm nominal width
Super-king: 210mm nominal length, 69mm nominal width
To find out how to put a condom on correctly, click here
There isn’t a one-size fits all approach to experiencing pleasurable sex. Sex can mean with another person, but it can also mean with ourselves. Giving ourselves sexual pleasure can be one of the most pleasurable sexual experiences we have. Finding out how we like to be touched and what kind of stimulation that brings us pleasure - this kind of knowledge we gain when we have solo sex which can help guide our sexual experience when we are with other people.
If you suffer from vaginal dryness adding a touch of lubricant to your genitals this World Health Day will help ease any discomfort you may experience from sex, but also provide you with the maximum pleasure.
Are men always up for sex?
Fuelled by pornography and cultural pressures, there is a common misconception that men always want to have sexual intercourse and are focussed on the physical, rather than the emotional connection. This myth can cause men to have increased anxiety over having to perform, or feel pressure to become ‘hard and ready’ all the time, but the truth is, men will have moments they feel more aroused and moments they don’t.
Does sex always have to be penetrative?
Another common misconception is that ‘sex’ always means ‘penis in a vagina’. However, sex can include any sexual contact, from oral sex, foreplay, anal, using sex-toys, as well as non-sexual contact. These days, there is a much wider definition of what ‘sex’ means, and you can have sex with someone without it being penetrative.
The only way to protect yourself from unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections is to wear a condom during sex. Condoms come in all different shapes, sizes and sensations, so there’s plenty of variety available. Unsure which condom to choose? Open this link 'in a new window' here 'What type of condom should I buy?
]]>This year, we thought we’d have our own celebration. It’s never been more important for women to take control of their sexual health and with Spring around the corner and to add a smile on your face, we have 40% off our smiley pouches between 25th Feb - 11th March 2022.
But before you stock up on your favourite condoms, let’s take a look at the history of International Women’s Day, celebrating lesbians, bi-sexual, trans, and trans feminine people, taking control of our sexual pleasure and how to protect ourselves from unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
International Women’s Day has been around in some capacity since the early 1900’s. In 1908, with oppression and inequality towards women widespread, 15,000 women marched through the streets of New York City, fighting for better pay and voting rights.
It was in 1909, that the first National Women’s Day took place - but back then it was celebrated on the last Sunday of the month of February.
In 1910, at the ‘International Conference of Working Women’, Clara Zetkin, the leader of the 'Women's Office' for the Social Democratic Party in Germany, advocated for an International Women’s day - where the whole world would celebrate women’s rights and press for their demands. This proposal was widely approved by the 100 women who attended from 17 different countries.
1911: The first International Women’s Day was initiated in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland on the 19th March. More than 1 million women and men campaigned for the rights of women in employment, voting, training, for public office and to end discrimination.
1913-14: Russia joined the celebrations and International Women’s Day was formally decided to take place on 8th March - a date which will be celebrated throughout the world thereafter.
1975 was a landmark year that saw the United Nations formally celebrating International Women’s Day.
To find out more about the history of International Women’s Day - click here
To find out more about the history of sexual health services, click here
For centuries, lesbians, bi-sexual and trans women have been historically silenced and discriminated against for who they are and for who they love. Cultural and societal expectations still enforce what it means to be a women, so expressing our true sexual orientation, sexual desires and gender identity can often be met with discrimination and prejudice.
Therefore, this International Women’s Day, it’s never been more important than ever to highlight injustices, celebrate our sexual health as well as lesbian, bi, trans and trans feminine people’s achievements and successes.
In their 2020 health report, ‘Out of the Margins’ found that LBQ women’s sexual and reproductive health needs remain glaringly understudied in a range of country contexts. This lack of knowledge and education has led to misconceptions in many areas of the world that the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections, such as HIV for lesbian, bi women and trans women are not present among these communities. These findings have led to recommendations to change practices , increase education and provide healthcare that is acceptable and accessible for all LBT+ individuals.
Taking control of our own sexual pleasure
Sexual restraint, threat of ruin and no sex before marriage were once long-standing expectations within British societies. We’ve come a long way since these earlier sexual ideals, and while we recognise work still needs to be done and myths need to be expelled, this International Women’s Day, we can celebrate the power that women have in taking back control of our own sexual health and sexual needs.
We have condoms that make sex last that little bit longer; with our Delay Infinity Condoms or to put a smile on your face, with our smiley condoms.
We have lubricants that enhance sexual activity by making things that little bit slippier, to make oral sex more sweetly-satisfying or increasing pleasure for masturbation.
We have HIV testing kits that mean you can self-test in the comfort of your own home
We have First Time Kits - with condoms, lubricant and information leaflets, for those that are looking to have sex for the first time
We have Variety Condom bundles, for those who love to mix it up in the bedroom.
Condoms reduce the risk of unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections by acting as a barrier between sexual fluids and your genitals. They can be kept in a protective case or coin purse within your handbag, bedside cabinet or anywhere that you can access them easily. Depending on your sexual needs, we have condoms and lubricants that can be used in every situation, from vaginal, oral, anal sex, masturbation and with sex toys.
]]>In 2019, the National Aids Trust reported 105,200 people living with HIV in the UK, while HIV Prevention England reported that in 2020, 1 in 20 people were unaware they were HIV positive. In addition, 42% of people first diagnosed with HIV were diagnosed late increasing the risk of spreading HIV on to sexual partners and poorer long-term health outcomes.
Therefore, to celebrate National HIV Testing week we thought it would be a good opportunity to find out a little more about HIV testing week, why it is important, how to find out if you are at risk, how to test for HIV, and how to protect yourself from catching HIV.
National HIV testing week is a whole week dedicated to raising awareness about HIV while highlighting the importance of getting tested to know your HIV status. Regular testing for HIV helps to reduce the number of people living with undiagnosed HIV and those who are diagnosed late.
The tagline for HIV testing week is ‘Give HIV the finger - a finger prick is all it takes’ which demonstrates how simple and easy it is to do a HIV self-test.
Testing regularly for HIV has been crucial in reducing the virus from being transmitted from person-to-person. New HIV diagnoses have been continually declining over the past ten years, with a 10% reduction between 2018-2019, with regular testing for HIV making a vital contribution to its decline.
Without regular testing for HIV, those who are HIV positive (and don’t know), delay appropriate treatment in helping to keep the virus at bay and can unknowingly transfer the virus through sexual contact, breastfeeding or by sharing needles.
Without treatment, the virus will continue to attack and weaken the immune system, progressing through various stages of the virus, leading to late-stages HIV or AIDS. Back in the 1980’s and 1990’s, most people who were diagnosed with HIV were eventually diagnosed with AIDS. However, these days, with regular testing and appropriate treatment, very few people develop serious HIV-related illnesses. This is why it’s so important to test for HIV this HIV testing week.
If you’ve never had a HIV self-test, it’s highly recommended you have one - even if it’s for peace of mind.
Also, if you fall into any of the below categories, it’s also a good idea to have a HIV self-test.
To find out more about whether you need a HIV self-test this National HIV testing week, click here
The only way to truly know your HIV status is to have a HIV test. Our HIV early detection test is a quick and simple way of testing for HIV and our self-test can be done in the comfort of your home. From as early as 21-22 days from exposure to the virus, our HIV self-test can detect the virus (however, it can take up to 3 months to produce a positive result) and the result will be ready within 1 minute.
For a video walk-through on how to do a home HIV test, click here
As well as having a HIV self-test, we recommend condoms with every sexual encounter. Condoms reduce the risk of catching the HIV virus and sexually transmitted infections by preventing any sexual fluids from being transferred. Therefore, by using a condom (or dam) every time you have vaginal, anal or oral sex reduces the risk of contracting HIV or other STI’s.
For more information or to order a HIV home-test; click hereWith this in mind, let’s find out more about STIQ day, what STI tests are available, how an STI home-test works, how quickly you receive results and how to protect yourself from catching sexually transmitted infections.
With sexually transmitted infections on the rise every year, STIQ day is a reminder to make sure we all have our annual sexual health check-up. If we’ve had unprotected sex in the last two weeks, then all the more reason to get checked. Many STI’s do not have symptoms, so you don’t always know you have one.
You can be tested for the majority of sexually transmitted infections.
Chlamydia, also known as Chlamydia Trachomatis, is a bacterial infection that can often cause no symptoms (80% of women and 60% of men can have no symptoms). For those that do have symptoms, you may have pain when passing urine, unusual discharge, pain and swelling of the testicles (for those with a penis), vaginal spotting (for those with a vagina). Treatment is usually given in a course of antibiotics (either one tablet or a course for three weeks) and it usually clears up the infection.
Syphilis can often cause blisters, sores or ulcers around the genitals, anus or mouth. Syphilis can sometimes be difficult to diagnose as symptoms may not appear for years. However, if left untreated, Syphilis can attack your brain, heart and nervous system. Syphilis is usually treated with antibiotics, either as an injection or a course of injections or antibiotics.
Gonorrhoea, also known as ‘the clap’ is the second most common STI in the UK (after Chlamydia). Some people may show no symptoms (60% of men and 80% of women have no symptoms) but if you do have symptoms, they tend to develop within 14 days and will often be a green watery discharge coming from either the penis or vagina, pain or burning when passing urine and lower abdominal pain. Treatment is given as antibiotics, either as an injection or a course of antibiotics.
Genital warts are caused by the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV). Often people may not display any symptoms of the HPV virus (there’s over 100 different types) but if you have types 6 or 11, warts will be present around your genitals or anus. Treatment is purely an individual choice as the body tends to fight the virus on its own - but if you did want treatment, you may have cream or liquid, the warts may be frozen off or in some cases, surgery.
Genital herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV). There are two subtypes of herpes; type 2 (HSV-2) which only affects the genital area and type 1 (HSV-1) which causes herpes on the mouth, but can also affect the genital area. Symptoms may appear between 2-14 days of coming into contact with the virus and you may have stinging or tingling around the genitals, unusual discharge or small, fluid-filled blisters that burst within a day or two leaving sores.
A Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea STI test is usually taken through a vaginal swab or urine test (either self-taken or by a nurse or doctor).
A HIV test is usually taken by a blood test - you can order one here.
Syphilis is also taken by a blood test - it can be either self-taken or a nurse /doctor can do it for you.
Other STI’s, such as pubic lice, genital warts or any other lumps and bumps will often be diagnosed through an examination.
Many sexual health clinics are doing free non-asymptomatic (this means you don’t have symptoms) postal kits that you can do in the comfort of your home.
To find your nearest clinic to book an appointment or order a test-kit, click here
Home-tests are quick, easy and effortless. For those that would prefer a HIV test, you can order one here that can be delivered straight to your home. The box will include; 1 test device, 3 solutions, 1 lancet, 1 alcohol swab and 1 plaster. Unlike other HIV tests, there is no additional timing device required to complete the test as results are available within one minute.
For those that prefer a full sexual health test, you order a kit online through your local sexual health clinic and it will be delivered to your home address. Inside the box will be everything you need, including instructions. You may find a self-taken vaginal swab, a urine pot, a rectal swab (for men who have sex with men) and possibly everything you need to take a simple blood test sample.
With our HIV test, the results are available within one minute..
For postal or in-house STI’s - the results are usually sent to a laboratory for further testing so may take between a few days and a week to come back.
The National Aids Trust estimates that there are currently 105,200 people in the UK living with HIV with 98% of all people living with HIV on treatment and 97% of those on treatment are virally suppressed, which means they are unable to pass the virus on.
With this in mind, let’s find out more about HIV and AIDS, look back at the history behind the virus and World Aids Day as well as HIV treatment, testing for HIV and how to protect yourself from acquiring HIV.
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) is a virus that weakens and damages the immune system and is transmitted through unprotected sex, breastfeeding, blood and sharing needles or syringes. Without HIV treatment, HIV will eventually lead to Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS), known as the late stages of HIV where the immune system has been severely damaged by the virus. These days, few people are diagnosed with AIDS due to modern day advances in antiretroviral HIV treatment. If HIV is left untreated, it will eventually lead to AIDS, which is why it’s a good idea to get tested for HIV early on.
To read more about HIV testing this World Aids Day, click here
To order a test-kit, click here
This year, World Aids Day celebrates its 33rd year with substantial progress made in the battle of the HIV war over the last three decades. With this in mind, let’s take a look back at the history of HIV and Aids.
1979: The first UK transmission has been found in a sample
1981: A 49 year old gay man dies of an aids-related illness
1982: A 37 year old man, known as Terry Higgins dies of an aids-related illness
1982: Terry Higgins partner and friends establish The Terrence Higgins Trust to personalise and humanise AIDS throughout the UK
1984: HIV genetic variations of the virus have been detected
1985: 58 recorded deaths from an aids-related illness have been reported in the UK
1985: A HIV test has been developed with HIV testing starting to be offered within sexual health services
1986: The World Health Organisation (WHO) launches its global AIDS strategy
1987: Diana, Princess of Wales opens a ward in Middlesex hospital, dedicated to the treatment of HIV patients
1988: The World Health Organisation launches the first World AIDS Day on December 1st.
1990: A red ribbon is launched as an international symbol of AIDS awareness
1991: Freddy Mercury, the lead singer from Queen, dies one day after announcing his AIDS diagnosis
1995: HIV cases in the UK reach 10,000
1996: The viral load test is developed - increasing information about HIV progression
1996: Triple combination therapy (HAART) becomes standard treatment for HIV patients
1999: New HIV diagnoses for heterosexuals in the UK exceeds those among gay and bisexual men for the first time ever
2001: UK government launches the first national strategy for sexual health and HIV.
2001: Globally, 33 million people are living with HIV
2003: The National AIDS Trust launched a campaign challenging HIV stigma.
2012: First National HIV Testing Week
2015: First Home Testing Kits become available, after being legalised in 2014
2017: PrEP introduced and made free on the NHS in Scotland
2018: Public Health England (PHE) publishes figures showing an 18% decrease in HIV diagnoses in the UK in 2016
2020: PrEp now available to those at high-risk living in England
While HIV treatment is unable to cure the HIV virus, it can stop the virus from reproducing in the body and reduce the level in your blood to make the virus undetectable (we call this undetectable viral load). That means the virus is still in your body but you are unable to pass the virus on.
HIV treatment usually involves taking one tablet, combined with three different drugs. This treatment is usually known as either combination therapy, antiretroviral therapy (ART), or highly active antiretroviral therapy (HAART).
For those that are HIV negative but are at high risk of being exposed to HIV, you can take Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), which is two drugs (Tenofovir and Emtricitabine) that can treat HIV straight after the virus has entered your body. For those at high-risk of contracting HIV in England, you can get PrEP free from a local sexual health clinic.
Post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) involves taking HIV medication within three days (or 72 hours) of exposure to the HIV virus but works best if taken within 24 hours. A further course of HIV treatment is then taken for 4 weeks. PEP doesn’t have 100% effectiveness, but it is taken as an emergency measure and can be picked up from your local sexual health clinic.
To find out more about HIV treatment this World Aids Day, click here
Testing for HIV is quick and simple. We offer an early detection test (that’s 99% accurate) that you can do in the comfort of your home. The HIV early detection test can be done as early as 21-22 days from being exposed to the virus, however it can take up to 3 months to produce a positive result.
Click here for a video walk-through on how to do a home HIV test…
Condoms reduce the risk of catching sexually transmitted infections, including the HIV virus by preventing sexual fluids from being transferred. This World Aids Day, stock up on your favourite condom. Unsure which condom to choose? Open this link 'in a new window' here What type of condom should I buy?
As well as ensuring you or your partner wear condoms, getting a regular sexual health screen, including HIV testing on a regular basis (we recommend annually or on change of a sexual partner) will help reduce the risk of acquiring and transmitting the infection on. ]]>Statistics show that men are more likely to commit suicide with 75% of all suicides in 2018 coming from men, more likely to have a sexually transmitted infection and 1 out of 8 men will be diagnosed with testicular cancer, so it’s vital now more than ever to continue increasing awareness for men’s health issues.
Therefore, in honour of Men’s Health Awareness Month, let’s find out more about why condoms prevent sexually transmitted infections, the different types of STI’s that you could be exposed to, why checking your testicles are important, what your testicles should feel like as well as tips on how to ensure you are checking your testicles correctly.
There are two primary ways that sexually transmitted infections can be transmitted; through secretions or by skin-to-skin contact. If we (or our partner) have a sexually transmitted infection, the bacteria is released through secretions (either from the urethra or vagina) and is transferred when it hits our genitals, anus or in some cases our throat. To protect men's sexual health (and women’s), condoms act as a barrier, preventing any sexual fluid from being transferred, to reduce the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection.
As well as reducing exposure to infected secretions, condoms also reduce the chance of catching sexually transmitted infections that can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact, such as the HPV virus or genital herpes. When you wear a condom, the thin layer of natural rubber latex covers up your penis, reducing the risk of exposure to infected genitals or anus. Therefore, in order to look after men's sexual health (or a woman's) - it’s important to ensure you always have a supply of condoms.
To celebrate Men’s Health Awareness Month, we have a site-wide Black November sale throughout the whole of the month, so there’s no better time to stock up on your favourite condoms.
This Men’s Health Awareness month, spend time finding out more about sexually transmitted infections, what the symptoms are and how to keep your penis safe to ensure you look after men’s (and women’s) sexual health. Click on the link to find out more about each STI.
Lymphogranuloma Venereum (LGV)
Checking your testicles regularly helps detect any abnormalities or changes that may have taken place. If you notice any unusual lumps, bumps or lesions, it could be a sign of a sexually transmitted infection or something else. The more you check your testicles, the more you become familiar with what is normal for you - so you can notice any changes quicker.
Movember is the month to raise awareness of important health issues, including men's sexual health by growing a moustache throughout the month. One important health issue that gains awareness this month is testicular cancer, a common type of cancer that is found in men aged 15-39. Testicular cancer can be cured 99% of the time if it’s caught early enough.
If you do notice any changes or if you are worried about anything, it’s best to see your doctor as soon as possible.
Testicles tend to be the same size, but it's really common for one testicle to be slightly bigger than the other or to hang down lower than the other. Testicles should feel smooth with no lumps or bumps. This men’s health awareness month, become familiar with what your testicles feel like - experts say you should be checking your testicles at least once a month.
The best place to check your testicles is in a warm shower, as the heat from the water causes the testicles to hang lower, making it easier to examine them.
We all have different sexual appetites; some of us prefer to indulge once or twice a week while others prefer to raid the sexual desert cart every day of the week - maybe even several times a day. In the media, we’ve seen celebrities such as Russell Brand, Michael Douglas, Pamela Anderson and Ulrika Jonsson seek treatment for sex addiction’ or ‘hyper-sexual disorder’ which can further fuel our anxiety on whether our behaviour is normal or not.
Many studies have taken place to show the average number of times an individual has sex, however, as our sexual desires vary from person-to-person, what feels healthy to you may feel like ‘too much’ to another individual. Therefore, this World Mental Health Day, let’s find out more about what is classed as sex addiction, how much sex is normal, what to do if you’re worried and how you can protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections.
The World Health Organisation defines sex addiction as “an inability to control intense sexual urges leading to people neglecting their health despite often deriving no pleasure from being intimate”. This means that those engaging with compulsive sexual behaviour despite negative consequences could be labelled as having a sex addiction and having too much sex - whether the sexual activity is sex with a partner, masturbation, watching pornography, frequently visiting prostitutes or using sex-lines or cyber-sex.
While sex addiction is not a classified psychological disorder in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) or APA (American Psychological Association) handbooks, The Royal College of Psychiatrists argue that between 4-6% of the UK population are thought to suffer from sex addiction.
How much sex is normal?
The quantity of sexual activity that feels right will vary from person to person. What is normal for you will depend on how you feel about the amount of sexual activity you are having. If the amount feels good and healthy, then chances are it’s a healthy amount. If you are unsure or think you are having too much sex, then it could be a sex addiction - a few questions you could ask yourself this World Mental Health Day are;
If you’re worried about the quantity of sexual activity you are doing, there’s a few things you can do; attempt to slow down or have an abstinence break for a while, talk to your partner about your concerns or speak to a healthcare professional who may be able to uncover the ‘why’ behind your sexual activity and help you to change the behaviour.
The important thing to do if you are worried is to talk to someone. Support is not just available on World Mental Health Day, but you can find support every day of the week. Here are a few organisations that can offer you confidential support as well as a non-judgement voice to talk to.
Relate - Help with Sex Addiction
Sex Addicts Annoymous in the UK
The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
The NHS - Can you become addicted to sex?
How can I prevent myself from catching sexually transmitted infections?
If you take part in any sexual activity, you are at risk of either pregnancy or catching a sexually transmitted infection (STI). The more sexual activity you have, the higher the risk. Therefore, it’s important that you use a condom every time you have vaginal, anal or oral sex. As well as ensuring you or your partner wear condoms, getting a sexual health screen on a regular basis (we recommend annually or on change of a sexual partner) will help reduce the risk of catching and passing an STI on.
Between the 1st and 15th October, we are offering buy one, get one free on all mint lubricant - so while you are stocking up on condoms, treat yourself to some lubricant for an enhanced pleasurable experience.
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