5 Best Sexual Positions to Last Longer

Lots of men worry about finishing too quickly, but lasting longer in bed isn’t just about stamina. It’s about control, choosing the right sex position to last longer and understanding what works for your body. The sex position you choose can make a big difference in how much stimulation you feel and sometimes slowing things down with a slower sex position can help you stay relaxed. And for a little extra help - our Delay condom can give you more time to enjoy the moment.

Here are five sex positions to last longer that are perfect for slowing things down, keeping control and letting pleasure build slowly and naturally.

Spooning

Spooning is one of the best sex positions to last longer because it slows everything down. 

How to do it?
You both lie on your sides, with your partner’s back resting against your chest - just like you are in the ‘spooning cuddle position’. From there, the partner in front should separate their legs while the partner behind penetrates from behind, keeping the movement slow, intimate and relaxed. 

Why it works?
The is one of the best slow sex positions because movement is gentle, relaxed and intimate, helping you stay calm and connected together. Also, the penetration isn’t too deep or fast, which helps reduce sensitivity. If you start to feel close, pause for a few seconds and take a few deep breaths, before continuing. 

For extra confidence and control - try using a delay condom. It takes the edge of sensitivity so you can enjoy the moment for longer.

The Cowgirl

Letting your partner take the lead can really help you stay in control, making this one of the easiest sex positions to last longer. You lie back and your partner decides the speed, rhythm and depth. 

How to do it
The man lies on his back while the woman straddles him, sitting upright and facing towards him. She can control the depth and rhythm, leaning forward or back as she moves. She can also use her hands to press on her partner's chest for balance, stimulate her clit while grinding or bouncing on their thigh as well as increasing the pleasure by changing the angle slightly.

Why it works
This slow sex position helps to last longer because you’re less active, which means less stimulation. Your partner has full control, so can slow things down or speed things up depending on how she feels. If you start getting close, place your hands gently on her hips to slow down. 

Using a delay condom with the cowgirl can give you even more control and let you relax without worrying about finishing too quickly.

The Yab-Yum

This position comes from traditional Tantric practices and it’s all about blending physical pleasure with a deep emotional connection between partners. It’s also one of the best slow sex positions for making sexual pleasure last even longer.

How to do it
The man (or penetrating partner) sits comfortable, cross-legged or with legs slightly bent. The woman (or receiving partner) then sits on their lap, facing them and wraps her legs around their waist. Your chests are close together and movement comes from gentle rocking rather than thrusting. 

Why it works
The yab-yum sex position makes the experience last longer because there’s less thrusting movement and more slow rhythm. It naturally helps the man last longer because of the reduced overstimulation. 

For even better results, add a Delay condom to enhance control while keeping the experience sensual and intimate.

Sit On The Throne

This position is another sex position perfect for lasting longer as it encourages slow and controlled movements rather than fast thrusts.

How to do it
The man sits on a sturdy chair or at the edge of the bed with feet flat on the floor. The woman then sits on their lap, facing away from them and lowering themself onto their partner's penis. 

Why it works
Just like with the cowgirl, this slow sex position gives the woman full control over the pace and rhythm which naturally helps the man last longer. The movements tend to be slower and more rhythmic with a focus on gentle motion, rather than deep, fast thrusts. 

For even greater pleasure, try combining this position with a delay condom - it helps you last longer and often leads to a more intense orgasm.

Missionary

You might be surprised to learn that missionary can actually help you last longer. It’s good for controlling the pace and penetration when you feel yourself getting closer to climax.

How to do it
The man lies on top of the woman with both partners facing each other. To make this  sex position less intense, try keeping your bodies close together and keep thrusts shallow and slow. You can also place a pillow under your partner's hips to change the angle for more control and comfort. 

Why it helps
Missionary allows you to control depth, speed and rhythm more easily which helps you last longer. You can slow down when needed, take breaks to kiss and touch and change your movements to stay comfortable and in control. 

Using our Delay condom with missionary is a good way of lasting longer. It’s coated with a mild desensitising lubricant that slightly reduces sensitivity - giving you extra control without taking away any pleasure. It helps take the pressure off so you can relax and enjoy the moment for longer.