How To Manifest Your Perfect Relationship Or Sexual Connection

Ever wondered why some people seem to slip into great relationships without even trying, while others find themselves in situations that feel chaotic, messy… or not quite right? 

The thing is, healthy relationships and good sexual connections aren’t down to just luck. They’re shaped by the choices we make, how well we understand ourselves, what limiting beliefs are lurking under the surface and how confident we are at asking for what we want. 

Manifesting a relationship isn’t about sitting back and waiting for the universe to deliver the right person to your door (although, that would be pretty amazing if it did). It’s about getting clear about what you do want (and not what you’ve always settled for) and creating space for the kind of connection you actually deserve.

So whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship or a passionate sexual connection - here’s how to manifest the perfect relationship for you. 

Decide 

The first step to manifesting a perfect relationship is deciding what you actually want. Not what feels familiar or what you’ve always had - but what you actually want. 

• Do you want a committed relationship, something more casual, like a sexual connection or do you want to explore something different like polyamory? 
• What do you need to feel safe in a connection? Is it good communication, someone you can be open and vulnerable with or someone who shows up for you and supports you in everyday life?
• Ask yourself what you’re craving at this stage of your life. Is it excitement and adventure? Or are you looking for something more stable and secure?

Once you decide what it is that you want, you get to attract it into your world. 

Get Clear

Once you know the type of connection you are looking for - the next step to manifesting a relationship is getting clear on what you actually need to be happy. 

When people think about manifesting a relationship, they often focus only on who they want - things like height, looks, age, career or lifestyle. And while those things are important, they’re not the full picture. 

What really matters most is how you want to feel.

So as you start getting clear, it can help to write down the qualities that are important to you - but also take it a step deeper and ask yourself; 

• How do I want to feel when I’m with them? 
• How do I want to feel when I’m vulnerable or struggling? 
• How do I want intimacy to feel - emotionally and sexually?
• How do I want things like communication, trust or desire to show up?
• How do I want to feel in my body when I’m with them? 

When you focus on feelings, rather than just the qualities - something begins to shift. A different kind of relationship starts to take shape - one that feels safer, natural and more aligned to who you really are.   

And when you’re clear on how you want to feel, it becomes much easier to recognise when a connection truly fits… and when it doesn’t.

Feel

After you’ve decided what you want and become clear on what you need to feel happy, this part of manifesting the perfect relationship is about letting yourself really imagine what the right connection feels like - not just in your head, but in your body.

Take a moment to imagine yourself already in the right relationship. Picture everyday moments; waking up together, talking easily, laughing, feeling relaxed in each other’s company. Imagine a relationship where emotional closeness and sexual connection feels both natural and comfortable. 

Notice how you feel when;

• You’re able to be your full self without holding anything back
  You feel chosen, not unsure 
• You feel secure, not anxious
• You feel desired, without any pressure

Let yourself sit with those feelings for a few minutes. You’re not forcing anything - you’re just getting familiar with what feels right for you. 

And in those feelings of love, excitement, happiness and safety - you will start attracting the perfect relationship that matches them.

Attract

When you’ve spent time feeling what the right relationship is like, something naturally begins to shift.

You don’t need to chase anything, or worry about how it’s all going to happen. You don’t need to force anything. The feelings you’re experiencing do the work for you. 

As you soak up the feelings of safety, excitement, love, happiness, being wanted, feeling happy - you naturally start to attract connections that match them. People who feel aligned with you are drawn into your world - often in ways you hadn’t even anticipated. 

Things may become easier. Conversation flow. You feel more at ease around the people that you meet while opportunities for connections appear without even trying to make them happen. 

This is manifestation working its magic. 

By being clear and allowing yourself to really feel it, you create space for the perfect relationship to find you at the right time. One that feels natural and effortless, right from the start. 

How to feel sexually safe in a relationship 

Feeling safe makes a big difference when it comes to enjoying any relationship or sexual connection. When you feel relaxed, able to talk openly, respected and know your boundaries - it’s much easier to stay present and enjoy the moment.

Looking after your sexual health can also help you feel more at ease. Using condoms or an oral dam gives you peace of mind, knowing you are protected against sexually transmitted infections, HIV or unplanned pregnancy. With a wide range of condoms, from different sizes, sensations and flavours - it’s easy to find something that feels right for you. 

Because when you feel safe in your body and comfortable with your choices, everything tends to flow more naturally.