Sex Ed: Oral sex

Oral sex is the stimulation of another person's genitals using the mouth or tongue. This can be done through licking, sucking or kissing the penis, vagina or anus. Sometimes oral sex can be referred to as fellatio (penile-oral), cunnilingus (vaginal-oral) or anilingus (anal-oral) but you may know them better as blow-jobs, going-down, rimming or plain old oral sex. 

Many people find oral sex an extremely pleasurable experience, and everyone has their own preference on what they like and how hard or soft they like it. Here’s everything you need to know about oral sex to make it an experience to remember…..

Preparing for Oral Sex

Before you begin oral sex, it’s always a good idea to look for any lumps, bumps, sores or unusual discharge on or around the genital area. If you see any of these signs, hold off on having any form of sexual contact as they may be due to a sexually transmitted infection. Of course, some STIs may present no symptoms, so make sure you have your condom, internal condom or dam to hand too.  

Anilingus (anal-oral)

While rarely orgasms happen during anal-oral, it can still be a pleasurable experience for some. 

How do I do it?

Ask your partner to kneel on all fours and crouch on the floor behind them. Using your mouth, gently kiss and touch the area around the anus. While lubricant enhances all oral sex experiences, some people love to use it with anal-oral and this would be a good time to apply it. Open your partner's buttocks and use your tongue to make circular motions around the outer area and slowly insert your tongue into the anus. Your partner will help guide you on what feels good, whether that’s licking, sucking or gently probing.

For those that have a vagina - don’t move straight from the anus to the vagina as you can transfer bacteria and cause an infection. 

Should I ask my partner to wash first?

Yes, some people prefer to wash their anus beforehand, as washing helps prevent the spread of bacteria or parasites that pass through the anus. Using a dam can also give you added protection. 

Will I make my partner orgasm?

Those who enjoy anal-oral rarely have an orgasm with this alone - think of this as a satisfying foreplay activity. However, it’s a good way of seeing if you and your partner find pleasure in anal fun.

Can I catch an STI through rimming? 

All sexual activities come with a risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection, that’s why it’s a good idea to always make sure you use extra protection, like wearing a dam during oral sex. 

Cunnilingus (vagina-oral)

Vagina-oral / cunnilingus

How to do it?

Begin by slowly teasing your partner by kissing, breathing and softly touching their upper thighs - as this helps to build up excitement and anticipation of what's to come. Next, use your fingers to gently part the outer lips of the vagina and locate the clitoris, which will become slightly swollen when aroused. Place your tongue on the clitoris and begin by making slow movements - some like to be licked up and down, while others may prefer circular motions - it’s a good idea to keep checking in with your partner to see what feels good. With over 8000 nerve endings, the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the vagina so this is where you’ll want to spend the majority of your time.

Can I add penetration?

Just like with most sexual activities, everyone loves different things. Some people love penetration, others prefer not too. Talk to your partner about their desires and what they feel comfortable with during oral sex. If they want to try something new, try adding a finger inside the vagina and see if you can locate the G spot (it’s behind the pubic bone).

Can we use lubricant? 

Yes! Definitely. Some people prefer to use lubricant as it makes it feel more intense. Our flavoured lubes come in minty lube, succulent strawberry, or our mini lubes come in cookies and cream and exotic banana.

Can I catch an STI?

Yes, just like sexual intercourse, you can still catch a sexually transmitted infection through oral sex. To protect yourself from catching an STI, cover the vagina with a dam.

Fellatio (Penis-oral)

How to do it?

Hold the penis in your hand and gently breathe and kiss to arouse it. Some people prefer to lick the penis from the shaft to the tip using big, slow licks, while others prefer to pop the balls in their mouth first. The tip of the penis (the glans) is ultra-sensitive, so focus your main attention here. Slide the penis into your mouth and use your lips to glide up and down. You can try different techniques but always start slow and then build up to a faster pace - work with your partner on what they enjoy the most. 

What other areas could I focus on?

The scrotum and testicles are also particularly sensitive, so you could lick or suck your partner's balls for an ultra-intense feeling. A man’s G-spot is approx 2 inches inside the anus, so you might also like to gently put your finger inside the anus to stimulate it. 

Can I wear a condom?

Yes. We always recommend wearing a condom during oral sex as they protect you from sexually transmitted infections. Our taste condoms are a great addition to oral sex with strawberry, minty fresh, chocolate temptation and blueberry blast flavours. 

Tips for good oral sex 

1. Don’t rush and take your time - this is a pleasurable experience for you both

2. Use lubricant to enhance the experience; choose from tingling mint or sweet strawberry or our pack of mini lubricants which also include exotic banana and cookies and cream.

3. Keep asking your partner what they enjoy or don’t enjoy - as this will help them to reach orgasm quicker

4. Utilise foreplay and begin with the rest of the body as this can help make the body feel ultra-sensitive

5. Remember don’t ever do anything you are not comfortable with